I hope you all are going through an enriching and happy christmas holiday.
Today, a couple of hours before the celebration of New Year, I thought would be a good time to bring a subject I believe has the power to change one's
At least change the way an individual look at life and himself
Before I go deeper in the subject, I'd like to say something about the famous 'New Year Resolutions' we hear from everyone each year here on ATS and
also around us in our families and circle of friends.
There's something I've come to realize through years of observation about this whole phenomena of strong resolutions made just before the new year.
This realization is the fact that people will fail more often than they would like to think.
And even though they failed miserably, they won't care and just make the same resolutions over and over again the next year.
I guess this can be easily compared to the famous quote by our well-respected Albert Einstein
Insanity: 'Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results'
Truth is, people aren't far from being unconscious robotic-like creatures from this point of view.
The important truth we don't seem to grasp and understand is that in order to truly change, you've got to work actually do something. You have to
work on yourself every second of every minute of every hour of every day
. This is the way it works, and as sad as this may sound for some, it is
However, in the 21st century, it's the complete opposite that occurs.
People will go on with their lifes, go to work everyday, consume entertainment and make sure they never have to think about their own life and
actions. There are exceptions, but let's be honest, we are not living in th era of genuine personnal and spiritual enlightment.
Most times people will miss the point, as simple as it may be, but in order to change yourself you have to:
1st- Observe your problems/weaknesses and then accept them
2nd- Work on them in a conscious and permanent way
You don't need to wait for the end of the year to accomplish the magical shift. It's something that has to be done in the moment of now
This is where I begin to talk about the main idea of my topic:
The existence of the powerful yet subtle identification to the mind caused by the ego.
I know for a fact a lot of people are unhappy in the 21st century and they often wonder how to get out of their misery. Even with all the knowledge
and technology we possess we still can't aspire to true happiness. There are multiple ways to adapt to an undesirable situations, however, and I say
this from my own experience, these adaptation mechanisms will often fail. On the other side, many people will claim to be happy and that everything is
fine in their lifes, but is it really? When this whole system of entertainment created by technology will fall, and they are forced to truly face
themselves, I wonder what will happen to their 'happiness' and well-being. I've been there, thought I was happy because I had what I believed was good
and needed in life, and then life itselfs smashed me to the ground. From this day on, everything has changed... I changed.
Some people truly want to become better persons but they just can't succeed.
They will not fail because they aren't good or effective individuals, but rather because they are completely ignorant to the main source of the
problem within themself
. In this instance, how could you resolve a problem if you only try to change its surface? You've got to go deeper than
Of course, I'm not talking about all kind of problems - there are many that doesn't necessarely need what I'm going to present to be resolved.
I'm approaching deeper personnal problems in the well being of an individual, like;
anxiety disorders, depression, failure to adapt to the loss of a loved one, emotional dependance, hate/anger towards the world, failure to stop
looking into the past or future, inability to stop doing the same mistakes, unhappinness, problem of self-confidence, etc.
These are all hardful problems that need to be resolved in order to be happy and quite honestly, this is only possible when you start to work on your
So, what is an ego and why is it crucial in personnal development?
Let's hear what Eckhart Tolle, famous writer for his book 'The power of now' which has changed the life of millions of people, has to say on this.
Selfishness, vanity, pride and the perservation of the self is what most of us tend to think of when we think of ego, but ego is much more than an
overinflated sense of self. It can also turn up in feelings of inferiority or self-hatred because ego is any image you have of yourself that gives you
a sense of identity—and that identity derives from the things you tell yourself and the things other people have been saying about you that you've
decided to accept as truth.
One way to think about ego is as a protective heavy shell, such as the kind some animals have, like a big beetle. This protective shell works like
armor to cut you off from other people and the outside world. What I mean by shell is a sense of separation: Here's me and there's the rest of the
universe and other people. The ego likes to emphasize the "otherness" of others.
This sense of separation is an intrinsic part of the ego. The ego loves to strengthen itself by complaining—either in thoughts or words—about
other people, the situation you find yourself in, something that is happening right now but "shouldn't be," and even about yourself. For example, when
you're in a long line at the supermarket, your mind might start complaining how slow the checkout person is, how he should be doing this or doing
that, or he failed to do anything at all—including packing the bag of the person ahead of you correctly.
When this happens, the ego has you in its grip. You don't have thoughts; the thoughts have you—and if you want to be free, you have to understand
that the voice in your head has created them and irritation and upset you feel is the emotional response to that voice Only in this way can you be
present to the truer world around you and see the golden shade in a pound of pears on the scanner, or the delight of a child in line who begs to eat
them.The trick, of course, is to work to free ourselves from this armor and from this voice that is dictating reality.
If you profoundly understood what was presented above -
The ego wants us to think we are nothing more than endless thoughts, which is false.
Thoughts can be infinite thus unhealthy if we don't find how to control them (80% of people in the modern era). Also, thoughts and emotions are
intimetely linked. If you learn how to control your thoughts, you can be free of the heaviness of certain emotions that saddens your life.
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