I entirely agree with you. I have experienced both being rich and being dirt poor. I went from rich to poor though. Thanks for getting straight to the
point and posting the hierarchy of needs link.
I would say that the two factors that influence my decision making more than anything else
, even my own free will, would be environmental
factors and chemical factors. The chemical factors could be something like diet, or pharmaceuticals, for example.
Also very good - thank you for the perspective on being poor and female. Even being a guy, I have experienced similar emotions to the ones you are
What I take from this is that we need to focus on the hierarchy of needs more. And that means moving away from socialism to a society where people are
able to earn enough money on their own to be well off. I find it very uncomfortable to have to depend on the government for support.
There should be a safety net, with the addition of positive programs put in place to allow for personal growth -
I don't know what to say about the gender relations part. A lot of that comes back to the chemicals influencing behavior I mentioned earlier. So
although I agree that it would be nice if guys (including myself) were able to hang out as friends with girls, I'm not sure that is necessarily
You know what, it might be realistic, but definitely not in all cases - a guy might even want it, but be unable to know how to do it.
But there definitely need to be some social changes, I think - I don't like the idea of guys and girls getting married and the girl having no say.
However, I also know there is evidence that shows that divorced parents have a higher chance of their kids being divorced, and that
getting a divorce has a negative effect on children psychologically. I also know that being a single mother has an effect on the personal finances of
yourself and your child - as well as I know there is evidence that being a single guy reduces the wealth of the guy considerably.
So all of this points to benefits from stable family life. At the moment, I'm not dating anyone because I don't want to risk the repercussions from a
snap break-up, divorce, or cheating.
There are probably other guys like me out there who are not risking being in a relationship or even getting intimate or having friends with girls
because there is too much of a risk.
Is that selfish that I refuse to be involved with someone before I know if I'm going to end up wasting my time and being hurt? Is it selfish that I am
holding back having sex or a relationship because I want to make sure that the child would come into the world alive and experience a positive and
stable home life first?
I also know that research shows that having multiple sexual partners has a detrimental psychological effect on both the male and female
So is it selfish if I am holding back getting into a relationship because most girls I talk to insist on it not being exclusive?
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