posted on Dec, 4 2013 @ 11:48 PM
They have the ability to make you feel on top of the world one minute and push you off of that perch in the next minute. They have not learned to
filter what comes out of their mouths when they are that young and you wind up hearing more truth sometimes than you would like.
I know that knocked some wind out of you and I am sorry for it. It is a painful thing to feel like you have let your kids down in any area. You are
not the first one to be caught in this snare!
My husband and I argued about this when my daughter was younger. I decided early on that when my daughter got around to asking if Santa was real or
not.... I would tell her the truth. My reasoning for doing so, was what you just experienced. My husband who seemingly believed in Santa until he was
25 was NOT happy about that. We had more than one argument over it. He was adamant that telling her the truth when she asked would end her childhood
It didn't. It also would not have really hurt to let her believe a little longer. Hindsight is 20/20 after all. As I have gotten older, I realized
that me telling her that one tall tale would not result in a loss of trust forever. And it won't result in that for you either even though it may
seem so right now.
If you are anything like most people, this isn't really the first time he has heard you lie. Most of us tell several lies daily and our kids do
notice. We answer the phone and turn down an invitation to Grandma's cookout claiming previous plans and your child sees those previous plans as
nothing more than sitting at home like you would any other night. It doesn't take them long to figure out that you lied to get out of an unpleasant
All we can do is try our best to be the best parents we can be. None of us are perfect and as our children age, most of them will realize this and not
have to seek therapy because we failed so miserably.
Don't be too hard on yourself. He was telling the truth about you lying and that is what you raised him to do so you must be doing something right.
He will forgive and forget just like the rest of us did when our dreams of a fat, hairy, old guy breaking and entering in our home to eat cookies,
drink milk, and leave toys was crushed by some unfeeling dream crusher.