Originally posted by tacitblue
I truely do love her but she needs to make some big changes in order for it to work out.
This sentence says to me that you are unsure of your actions.
You need firstly to work out if you really want to leave her. And then you need to discover why
. If you truly love her and she feels the same,
there can only be pain (for both of you) from breaking up with her.
If, however, you no longer feel for her as you once did and can see no future in the relationship, you need to be honest but not hurtfully blunt.
Maybe you just need to talk in order to work things out. I would suggest you talk firstly, with no threats or recriminations and see what comes of