I personally feel it's an accumulation of the exploitation of slasher films which made their debut in the middle 70's, violence in movies, explicit
violent video games and violent lyrics in music.
And yet the overall rate of violence has been on a sharp decline.
I say this as no minor point. This is monumental, and completely ignored. Why does no one want to take credit for this new era of peace? Why aren't
we celebrating our safer streets and new freedoms? It doesn't suit the agenda I suppose.
To give some back ground, I've been a feminist for a long time. I've attended groups and functions, assisted in running the Vagina Monologues,
created and distributed feminist media and artwork ... but this has to stop somewhere. Not every issue is a feminist issue! Not everything is a cause
of the patriarchy.
Are we honestly implying here that men have conspired to be killed over and over again? Conspired to find the bottom rung of the ladder? That the last
four thousand years of civilization have been nothing but men swinging their penis's around their head like lassos whilst living the high life? More
than likely there has been one hundred thousand
hard fought years and to primitive persons it didn't make sense that God invented 50% of the
human species to be less effective at fighting lions. One hundred thousand years is a long time to build a false sense of one's self. It wasn't
patriarchy, it was evolution and survival.
I won't deny, I'm still a feminist but what did civilization think would happen? Men evolved to fight, its what we've been using them for in the
last hundred thousand years. Now this isn't a time to talk about the silencing of women so I'm going to ask everyone in the thread to just skip it.
We know that women haven't had a voice in history the way men have had and women's rights have been an issue etc etc etc ...
The actual question is, do we really expect to snap our fingers and have men universally go, 'oh wow we were being might silly weren't we! We really
over shot it there with that 100, 000 years of violence!' The fact of the matter is, when a man chooses the path of violence it will be more decisive
and effective and it will cause more casualties. No amount of feminist critique will ever alter this.
The one common factor amongst all these men who have snapped is a lack of value. They are the invisible men that women don't notice or perceive. They
are failed university students, disgraced military men, bullied school boys ... Perhaps men changing isn't the only issue, perhaps women have to
change what they perceive as the value of a man. Women set the bar for male value, and its high time we admitted that. If women around the world
tomorrow decide that unemployed men wearing giant floppy pink clown shoes are hot we will be surrounded by clowns within two years.
Yet here we are. Instead of trying to understand what makes one type of man different from another, we say 'men we want you to react in a different
way.' We say, 'change what is important to you.' When we have image and esteem issues we say, 'men stop looking at women this way, stop causing
the eating disorders. We want you to be different from what you are.' This is honestly like telling women to lose weight more effectively to help
their self esteem problems, or stating that women need to stop feeling pressured by their self esteem issues.
What we should
be saying is, 'men, why
do you feel this way? Why are you angry, why do you feel unvalued and unwelcome?' What I'm
saying is actually really subtle in comparison the OP article, but feminism is a form of 'patriarchy' in itself when wielded by the wrong hands ...
Feminism says that patriarchy ignores gender non-conforming people for example. It disrespects gay people. It does X and Y and Z and everything else
and what it needs is more feminism. Feminism has everything good and 'patriarchy' has everything bad. This is nonsense. Our society has evolved over
time and it will continue to evolve. The fact that we live in a century where we can complain about men in particular as a cause of death is a
leap forward. I can't stress this enough.
1. We've made progress. We should acknowledge this instead of talking like the sky is falling down all the time. Perhaps we've already made the
steps we need by lowering the value of violence in society.
2. Feminist critiques are not going to change men. This is how some out in front feminists have responded to
. This sickens me as a feminist. When men
have esteem issues feminists
make fun of them. We need to look at the problem as a problem and leave our theory crafting as to which gender is
to blame out of it.
3. Women and men's culture do not exist independently of one another. We need to honestly ask how are men and
women contributing to these
issues instead of blaming it on the patriarchy and assuming men are the evil ones and women are hidden in ivory towers.
4. Poverty leads to violence. Men in poverty become violent for reasons other than being brought up in a patriarchy. There is a reason why theft,
larceny and burglary are the favorite crimes in rich western nations ... poor men trying to steal to take care of their poor families. In America,
theft makes up sixty percent of all crimes reported. The question here is, why aren't women becoming career criminals? The answer is women don't
need to - it's far more efficient and safer to get a man to do it then afterwards we can make it part of the patriarchy instead of a real issue to
sympathetically engage with and solve together as a group.
Just my thoughts.