posted on Aug, 5 2013 @ 07:57 AM
Originally posted by FeelingPure
Thanks, Yeah everything is all good now... We are just friends, she never had a new boy friend... as soon as he called me that day, she called me that
it was not her boy friend but just a friend being protective of her... she apologized he called.. he she told me she was going through a stage of her
life that her health was not good & she was not taking medication that the doctor gave her.. she never told me although she wanted to she didn't want
me to think of her as worthless..
anyways its alll gooood.
I'm just her friend lol I'd prefer it to be that way... as well
I want to comment a bit to hopefully give you some peace of mind, and though I know you know this deep in your heart, it never hurts to hear it from
someone else with good perspective.
We never really understand how much love affects us, until we have had it and then it is taken away. I won't go into too much detail about my past
relationship, but I will tell you that it lasted for 3 years before it ended. After the initial breakup I was in a weird state of denial, mainly
because we had broke up a few times throughout the 3 years even though they didn't last longer than a day or two. I was confident that it was just
another phase where after some time we'd get back together. Of course, after being in love for so long, we still were communicating. The truth is we
were best friends, and more, but friends nonetheless for that entire 3 years time so...naturally even after the breakup we still had that connection.
Slowly the communication dwindled into nothing now after going on 4 years of not being together, but what happened leading up til now is what I want
to touch on.
Weeks started going by after the initial break up and things were, very odd, from my perspective at least. She would call me in the middle of the
night crying, talking about crap that she is dealing with and things about her friends. At this point it seemed like she still wanted me to comfort
her...and honestly I wanted to comfort her...so I did. Things turned out to be one sided though because any time I was the one reach out for
whatever reason (mostly to talk to her about my day and talk about hers, the usual), she wasn't there. This "cat and mouse" behavior lasted for at
least a year and a half. I can hardly imagine what it was like for her because I know she genuinely loved me back very much at that point, even
when she started dating other guys. She would reach out the me randomly despite being in another relationship.
Anyway the point I wanted to make was you have to understand that even if she still has strong feelings for you, she may still be telling herself to
move on. The only way you'll know for sure is by putting yourself out there constantly until she either takes you back or lets you go. It's
definitely not going to be easy, but if you love her it's best to let her know that now...more than ever. Be warned though that doing so can be
risky. If it turns out that she truly does want to move on no matter what, do your best to let her. If you make it hard for her to move on it will
only push her further away, simply because she doesn't want to hurt you, she cares for you. She'll beat herself up over it because she'll let her
emotions get the best of her and in ways lead you on if you persist too
much. On the other hand, doing little to become more than friends again
puts you at risk of forever being "friend zoned" before you have the chance to truly move on yourself, and that can hurt more in a lot of ways.
My best advice is to be true to yourself and do what you feel is right. At the very least if things don't work out between you two in the end,
you'll have little regrets. Trust me you don't want to be the guy who is hung up on a bunch of things that you regret about how you handled it,
things you said or didn't say, etc. Start talking to other women as soon as you know for sure nothing is happening with your ex. It will help ease
your mind and chances are you'll find a girl who finds your passion attractive, she'll know it is still directed a bit at your ex and it will make
her want to steal it away. That's a fun experience for sure. =)