reply to post by FeelingPure
First of all, you did the right thing. No matter what you said on Facebook you had every reason to get totally freaking obliterated that night. You
just lost a grand, which you had spent on romantic tweaks to an already romantic setting (that of a meal in a resturant, which in and of itself is
considered romantic) showing all the forethought, heart, mind, and soul, which are the basis of any decent relationship. You showed commitment there.
For her to blow you out after all that effort was simply wrong, no matter which side of jupiter she was currently orbiting around.
If I had lost a grand on such an endevour, I would have been wasted for two weeks straight, let me tell you. It would have been fake a sickie and end
up in a different county, wearing unfamiliar clothes and wake up in a hayloft wasted time for me I think.
Mind you, you have a lot to be thankful for here as well. You spent a grand right? Well, to even consider doing something like that, you must have
had some funds at your back, so that puts you ahead of a poor shmuck like myself, who has two farthings to rub together, but needs them to start fires
with (not quite that bad but no where near spending a grand on what amounts to a date).
This means you will not find as many stumbling blocks in future relationships as some might. Personally I think you must be some hell of a dude to
have the funds to spend that kind of money on a date, let alone go out and actually do it. Maybe you said some stuff you didnt mean on facebook, maybe
you meant every word, it doesnt really matter. You had a perfectly understandable reaction to that situation, and I defy any man, or indeed most
women, to tell you otherwise.
This woman you were in a relationship with, who ever she is, has no idea how lucky she was to be involved with a dude as proactive as you obviously
are. And to a much lesser degree, I know how you feel.
I have an "its complicated" rather than a GF. That is to say, I am emotionally invested with a woman who cannot reciprocate to the same degree. I
am a one woman man, she is not a one man woman. However, she complained to me recently that her bedroom gets awful stuffy when its hot, but since shes
two grand in the hole over a property sale at the moment, she cannot afford the time or money to get a fan or a cooler. So, I was in town the other
day, and happened across some fans at a discount store going for a song. I decided that despite my own paucity of funds, I would purchase such an item
Her response to my decision to spend my hard earned and rapidly dwindling funds on a fan for her? "Im not impressed." and "I dont want a fan."
She does want a fan, she told me as much. What she doesnt want is for anyone to do anything genuinely nice for her, because she would feel an
obligation of some sort. I am going to a barbeque at her mothers place today, and perhaps I will get drunk. I feel a venting of bile coming on