Words hurt just as words do not hurt.
As a child, words hurt me very deeply because words were all I had. In the absence of a knowledge of self-worth and importance, feeling loved and
appreciated, I looked to other people's words for confirmation that I was good and kind and worthy. Unfortunately, positive words were not mine to
receive. So, I learned to think in that negative self-talk, it became my comfort.
As a youth, words from other people did not hurt me at all. Nothing anyone else could say to me could be anything worse than what I already told
myself, so I laughed at all attempts at offense because they were pointless. I could not be hurt by words because they were hollow and meaningless.
As an adult, words from other people are interesting. I listen to the words, but I also listen to the intent behind the words. Surprisingly, I find a
lot more than just hate behind words of hate. I find that vulnerability and fear and insecurity the hateful words are hiding. I feel compassion and
love for those who would hate me, for those who speak words with the intent to harm me. Words do not hurt me because I listen and I understand what it
truly being said, "I am hurting so I want you to hurt, too." I do not take that burden of hate as my own, I choose to feel love instead.
The intent is far more meaningful than the words, because words are incapable of explaining our deepest emotion. While words do have a purpose in
meaningful communication, words are unnecessary and meaningless where love is present.
Words are useful in the world, because they have the power to convey our thoughts to other humans.
Words are detrimental in the world, because they have the power to convey our hate to other humans.
Words are beautiful in the world, because they have the power to convey our love to other humans.
In the end, words can hurt just as they can soothe - it is only in one's heart that the reception of words can be determined. Most people never learn
that words do not have to hurt, that all words are the same if one loves the human from whence the words came. Thus, it is both: words hurt and words
do not hurt.
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