reply to post by DocHolidaze
Hey DH,yes i do also teach my kids to deal with it,should it happen.For example,my oldest girl has encountered physical bullying only once in primary
school,and i have to say that she handled it very effectively.There is and always will be a lot of dislike and animosity between her and the other
girl,but since the incident where she was attacked and struck back hard all those years ago,it was limited to dirty looks.It's not in my kids'
nature to hurt others,physically or with words,they are kind people, but they have been taught that if some one should physically attack them,to
strike back twice as hard.Bullies are cowards,so they pick the targets less likely to retaliate,and she made it very clear that she Would
I get what you say about weakening the species,and to an extent i agree-this world is a brutal jungle already,and as it gets progressively worse each
day,we hardly need a SHTF scenario-the breakdown of the traditional family unit and the assault on our moral values by the media,Hollywood,the music
industry,violent pc games,the glorification of that+those that are shallow,materialistic,psychotically greedy,narcissistic,selfcentered, idiotic and
violent,the terrible examples set by those in government,bad or non-existent/absentee parenting etc are all contributing to a society in freefall over
an abyss.One needs to be strong,if not physically,more importantly mentally and psychologically.One needs a great deal of good old-fashioned common
However,the success,and i may go out on a limb here,but the very survival of a society and maybe even a species,depends on how it treats the
vulnerable and defenceless-children and the wise ones-the elderly.
You cannot have only warriors-you also need the nurturers,the thinkers,the inventors.Very often these are the "nerdy" types,the much more sensitive
and empathic types,the "softies"-who are the often the exact type of child picked on by bullies.I'm sure you get the drift.
Thing is,not every emotionally or psychologically more fragile child Has at least one parent or care-giver who is there to build them up through
sensible advice and guidance-and through just being there for them as support- sometimes it is not through bad parenting.Often the parent(s) loves the
child very much,but due to having but to work long hours to support a family,including said child,they cannot physically be there to do so.Or because
of other circumstances beyond their control.Some children find it very hard to reach out-my youngest daughter is not a person who likes to talk about
her feelings,thank goodness she is a very strong child,physically and mentally.But to get something out of her is like pulling teeth-teeth set in gums
of superglue.If she had to have been unhappy about something in her life,it would have been incredibly hard and time-consuming to get her to open up
about it-and i have lots of time.What about all those kids like her,but ones whose parents,though loving their kids just as much as i do mine-just do
not have the time because of work,especially in the case of single parents,or sickly parents?
Bullying is passing the buck too,imo,and more so.Its forcing others to share in one's misery,although the recipient of the abuse and thus part of
one's misery is completely innocent and unable to help one to a better place.It's basically saying:"I am hurting/angry with life cus i got such a
crappy deal-but by God,i an NOT going to suffer alone-i will make sure others are in pain too".
Often,let us be brutally honest,its just because of meanness and effed-upness,with absence of troubles at home/other issues that cause pain and
anger,as "mitigating" factor.Individuals like these usually contribute nothing to society-nothing positive anyway,in the long run.They just breed
and raise kids with the same level of effed-upness,the same crappy values and attitudes-they are the takers that never contribute anything
I agree that as parents we are the first line of defence,and the guides who should build up and educate our children to deal with the fact of life
that are bullies and bullying/harassment of various types.But not all targeted kids have the luxury of parents that can do this,often through
circumstances entirely beyond the parents' control-or sadly,parents with skewed priorities.I feel more should be done,to protect the kids more likely
to be targeted,the "softies" who usually grow up as decent law-abiding,productive members of society.The rubbish who bully and hound and harass
SHOULD have the chance to be educated that this lousy behavior shows weak character,that it's not "cool',it only makes one a prize asshole despised
by many-and they should be educated while still young-before MTV gets to tell them its cool to be a gangbanger,or violent games tell them its cool to
kill em all.