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Originally posted by smyleegrl
reply to post by Hopechest
I'm glad you had such a wonderful experience. Your words help, because I would want the child to feel completely "home" with us as well.
Do you remember anything before you were adopted? Two is really young, I know.
Thanks for the different perspective.
Originally posted by AfterInfinity
reply to post by smyleegrl
Why is it, when someone considers adoption, it's always a newborn? I wanna speak in defense of adopting an eight year old. I was nine and my sister was ten when we got adopted. Speaking from that perspective, I can tell you, it's a wonderful thing. I can't speak for the temperament of every child (I was a problem child myself) but I can tell you that the best thing you can do is treat them like your own. It's not about you adopting them, it's about them accepting you.
If you do adopt, good luck...and good job.edit on 6-3-2013 by AfterInfinity because: (no reason given)
Why is it, when someone considers adoption, it's always a newborn?
Originally posted by SpaDe_
I would also consult a good family practice lawyer. That is how I learned about the fact that closed adoptions are essentially non existent any longer, which is the only way I would adopt. The last thing I want is for a child to have it's life potentially torn apart multiple times because it's birth parents couldn't sort out their own situation from the beginning.
ETA: One more thing, prepare to have your life put under a microscope. They want to know every detail of your home life, income, spending, eating habits, health habits, social activities, you name it. It is a tedious task, but if you know what you are getting into ahead of time you will be better prepared to handle the probing questions.