reply to post by smyleegrl
Great to hear you're considering adoption. There's many who discount it straight out of hand. My wife and I have adopted, despite having our own
children. It was a choice that we were able to make and I can honestly say that so far, it's the best decision we ever made.
I can only comment on the process in the UK, but it is quite tightly controlled and just going through that process can put many people off.
Firstly, before we could be considered as adoptive parents we had to undergo some training so that we understood the implications of taking on a
child/children that may be 'broken' in some way.
From then it was a long process of assessing our suitability. This involved many visits from a Social Worker who would look at how we parent our own
children and quiz us various aspects of our home life, our beliefs and how we would integrate another child into our family. I personally found this
quite difficult, but very revealing as it required a great deal of introspection.
Obviously, adoption is a major life decision, so you have to be prepared to ask yourself whether you are able to take on a child with one or more
conditions or backgrounds. We were able to say yes or no to a long list, which may seem a cold way of dealing with the issue, but its much better to
be open and honest about it; this child will be with you for life. Obviously, the more you filter, the longer it will potentially take to place a
child. Also interesting to note that if you already have children, they wouldn't place a child that is older than your youngest as this would not be
the natural family progression.
Here in the UK, the focus is always on the welfare of the child, so it's the parents who matched as suitable for the child, not the other way around.
It's an enormous journey, but hugely rewarding. I wish you luck in yours.