OK, here goes.
Met this girl in high school. We were together for 12 years had 2 kids but over the years we grew apart, got divorced but became good friends in the end. She's like a sister to me now. We've been divorced for 7 years and shared custody 50/50 and all was going great.
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Now she's been dating this new guy for 5 months and they had major compatibility issues. I won't go into it but it's not good. Like I said she's like my sis, she tells me a lot of stuff. Now all of a sudden she want's to move in with the guy which live 2.5 hours away which makes her unavailable to the kids. In essence I will become Mr. Mom come June. She will only have access to the kids during the week-end if...and that's a mighty big if she come and picks them up. Her attitude lately is pretty dismissive and I'm afraid the kids will loose touch with her.
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My daughter is turning into a little lady, she stating junior high next year which I believe is a time where it's critical to have her mom around. As for my son, he's pretty independent but also pretty sensitive. He's never been much of a momma's boy but again I'm concerned since she won't be around, at 8 years old, could that cause some"mommy issues"?
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My problem is, as a father nothing would stand in between my kids and I. So, I imagine, her being a good mother having felt those lives growing inside her would have given her a sense of responsibility towards her kids which would be unshakable. Am I wrong?
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Here's my question. Have you ever been through something similar.? If yes, how did you deal with it and what's your advice? If not, what's your advice?
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Thanks in advance.

be glad she isnt trying to take them where you have to be the one to travel

My wife was raised in a split house hold, where her mother chose her "boyfriends" over her well being, it did not end well for her, to this day her relationship with her mom is strained.

Be grateful though that you will have the bulk of the custody of your children, all you can do is be a good dad and listen to your children, look out for their well being above all else.

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It sounds like the boyfriend might actually be a little worse than she's reporting, and has moved on to the next step every abuser follows: separating her from everyone who she loves and everyone who could offer support to her. He needs to be her only everything.

Do me a favor...ask her what happened between "having problems" and "moving in together". My life savings says that what turned everything around was his sob-story. They all have a sob-story that comes out when they either suspect the jig is up, or they're told "I'm leaving".

The next step is total dominance, so I don't know...RIGHT NOW would be a good time to get to the bottom of this. I understand your concern for your kids, but at this minute, my concern is with your former wife which, left unchecked, will become deep concern for your kids.

There's a very distinct way this kind of stuff works, and from the little bit you've revealed here, mothers who work it out with their kids' father well enough to share 50-50 custody of their children don't just up and move 2 1/2 hours away from their kids to live with a guy it isn't going so great with. Right?