posted on Sep, 24 2012 @ 01:51 AM
reply to post by glen200376
That's very crass.
OP it's possible your family may not be as harsh as you think they will.
My daughter was terrified to tell me she was gay. I gave no reason for her to ever think that. My eldest daughter had in fact been clueing me into
it, so I sort of knew anyways. When my daughter seemed she was ready to tell me. I helped her out by asking if this was going to be her confession.
Anyways she is getting married soon and I couldn't be happier she has found a wonderful girl to share her life with.
I can understand if your mother has already issued a warning if you ever tell her that you are....well that tells me she does know and isn't going to
be shocked by it.
I'm not saying it will go this way for you but even if your family arent accepting at first, they will come around eventually. If they don't then
so be it, you tried and its their loss.
You have to be true to yourself or you will be miserable. I urge you to be honest with the girl and guy. Don't lead them on and inform them of your
uncertainty. Or you can be dishonest and go with both, a handy solution when they don't live in the same towns. That's not nice to do though. Do
what you want to do, what makes you happy and feels right.
I don't really know what to say. I only have the perspective of being the mother of a gay daughter.
I am also from a family that is very judgemental and wasted most of my life worrying about what they think. It caused so much stress and the feeling
I was never good enough. Some of the things I was scared of them knowing though was really just me thinking it would be a bad outcome.