posted on Jul, 24 2012 @ 12:25 PM
In my experience, most women don't understand porn or why men would even WANT to look at it. Some women even take it personally as if to say "Am I
not sexy enough for you? You need to look at these other women? You should just come to me if you wanted sex!"
The thing women don't understand is that biologically, men and women are completely different. Even the concept of masturbating is bizarre to some
women as if "what's the point?" Men are very, very visual creatures and do not connect sex to emotional connection like women do. To most men, sex
is sex and furthermore, masturbation isn't really sex. It's more like the guy watches porn, really likes the woman a lot, has an orgasm, then is
quickly done with it and that's it. For men, sex and emotions are separate entities or, at least, they easily can be. That doesn't mean a man can't
have sex with someone he's in love with and connect the two because it certainly can and does happen, but just because a man watched some porn, all
that means is he needed new "visual" material and used it to have an orgasm without cheating or anything of the sort. Any man who says he doesn't
look at a beautiful woman he sees in public is lying and most even have some kind of sexual thoughts about them, but that doesn't even mean he wants
to have sex with her. It just, biologically, how a man's mind is wired and nothing can be done about it. Some women don't understand this while
others like to exploit it by wearing clothes that show off their body so they do get looked at (even very young girls these days which kind of sends a
confusing message, but that's a whole other conversation.) A woman's drive centers are emotional, so even if they see an attractive man or woman,
they notice and enjoy the sight, but it usually doesn't go any further than that. Completely different biology at work in a female and women just
have to learn to understand this.
By the way, this coming from someone who watches porn maybe a few times a month and only the amateur stuff. Porn is mostly a form of entertainment and
is not how REAL sex is nor is it how women really act. Porn is a fantasy that some men get into. The only way that it would be a problem is if it was
affecting the relationship like for example, the man preferred to masturbate to porn as opposed to making love to his wife. If the guy is suddenly
into porn after previously not being into it, I would say he was bored with the sex part of the relationship and was trying to spice it up a little
for himself. If he's masturbating to porn and not having sex at all with his wife or even showing her affection, it probably means there are big
problems OR he is just bored and done with the relationship.
My god, men look at porn for so many different reasons. I think we may only have part of the story here or your mom is just one of those women who now
feels inadequate because of his porn watching, but her reaction seems extreme even in that case. Personally, I think something else is going on that
you don't know about OR she believes it is some form of him cheating on her or something like that. Men can easily have sexual feelings about a
woman, have sex with her, then be completely done with her. Literally, no strings attached. A man's arousal centers are almost purely visual and a
man can have sex with a woman based on nothing more than that and have zero real feelings for the girl, but masturbation isn't sex, it's just a
release. Women on the internet are just women on the internet. After the orgasm, they're gone and not thought of afterwards. Porn is only a bad thing
if it affects your sex life with your partner.
Again, I don't even really watch the stuff. Most of it doesn't do much for me since I am very picky about it, but I'd almost bet she took it as
some kind of personal attack against her like she wasn't enough for him or saw it as some form of cheating. Either that, or something else was going
on that you don't know about. Either way, definitely an "ovary-action" (hehe) on her part based on the information you have given us anyway.