posted on Apr, 15 2012 @ 11:30 PM
Marriage can be the worst decision, or the best decision, that one can make in their life.
We dated for about a year before Todd and I decided to marry. We has small issues, but overall we were optimistic that we could make things work.
After a small church wedding, we moved in together and the problems began. I dare say that those six months we were married were amongst the most
miserable in my life, and we knew that the relationship was irreparably damaged when we had an emotional 3am "discussion" with my .380 pointed in
his face. That discussion 27 years ago was the last time Todd and I ever spoke, and I swore that I'd never get married again.
Two years later I met David, and we were happy together from our very first date. After three WEEKS of bliss, he asked me to marry him, and despite
my extremely bad experience with Todd, I accepted because I knew in my heart that this relationship was different. My family was in turmoil, and I
listened to all sorts of negative comments from family who bet that this marriage would be shorter than my first. I went head-to-head with my best
friends, few of whom had spent any time with him, but ALL who swore that I was a fool for tying the knot again. I looked past it all, and David and I
were married in a small civil ceremony held in our home. Unlike my first marriage, only two people showed up.
Maybe it was the fact that everyone opposed our union that we grew so close to each other, but regardless our marriage lasted 19 years until his death
a few years back. Those years we were blessed to spend together were absolutely the most wonderful times of my life. Despite having different
tastes, occupations and hobbies, we cherished our time together as a couple, as equal partners, and as soul mates that nobody who knew us would ever
Marriage in it's most basic sense is a legal contract, but given the right person and the right circumstances, it has the ability to transform into
something absolutely beautiful. Marriage gave me 19 years of happiness where I looked forward to going home because I knew that someone was there who
appreciated me for being me. For 19 years I was treated to a relationship in which we never fought or raised our voices in disagreement. Not even
once. Marriage gave me the opportunity to be the center of his universe, and I was proud, I was HONORED, to be his wife.
In your situation, it seems as though there is a certain amount of animosity between you and your friend. I urge you to try to set that aside, and
don't let your personal feelings damage your friendship. We all need to make our own decisions, and trying to persuade someone against following
their heart is going to cause unnecessary heartache and strain your relationship.