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Originally posted by galadofwarthethird
reply to post by Aeons
If one does truly have no interest in love, that is fair enough. I do wonder if that is not really true, since it is such a primal experience but all the same I would not force it upon someone who doesn't want it even if I could.
So you are safe from our manipulations galad.
Define love? But if there is to be manipulations, then count galad out. I mean sure it sounds like fun, but it also sounds like not fun.
Both types of attachment (maternal and romantic) activated regions specific to each, as well as overlapping regions in the brain's reward system that coincide with areas rich in oxytocin and vasopressin receptors. Both deactivated a common set of regions associated with negative emotions, social judgment and ‘mentalizing’, that is, the assessment of other people's intentions and emotions. We conclude that human attachment employs a push–pull mechanism that overcomes social distance by deactivating networks used for critical social assessment and negative emotions, while it bonds individuals through the involvement of the reward circuitry, explaining the power of love to motivate and exhilarate.
The early stages of romantic love seem to correlate as well with another substance, nerve growth factor, which has been found to be elevated in those who have recently fallen in love compared to those who are not in love or who have stable, long-lasting, relationships. Moreover, the concentration of nerve growth factor appears to correlate significantly with the intensity of romantic feelings.
The unpalatable truth is that falling in love is, in some ways, indistinguishable from a severe pathology. Behavior changes are reminiscent of psychosis and, biochemically speaking, passionate love closely imitates substance abuse. Appearing in the BBC series Body Hits on December 4, 2002 Dr. John Marsden, the head of the British National Addiction Center, said that love is addictive, akin to coc aine and speed. Sex is a "booby trap", intended to bind the partners long enough to bond.
This natural drug creates an euphoric high and helps obscure the failings and shortcomings of the potential mate. Such oblivion - perceiving only the spouse's good sides while discarding her bad ones - is a pathology akin to the primitive psychological defense mechanism known as "splitting". Narcissists - patients suffering from the Narcissistic Personality Disorder - also Idealize romantic or intimate partners. A similar cognitive-emotional impairment is common in many mental health conditions
This is what happens when we listen to others and not to ourselves. Everyone is different and love, sex, commitment, etc. means different things to different people of both sexes. AND at different ages. Throw Cosmo and Maxim out the window and look into yourself. One doesn't need someone else to tell you what is right for you. In fact it keeps you from being the person that you are.
Originally posted by Eidolon23
Originally posted by Aeons
The only times people are being encouraged to use their human wiring, and its to make money and reject intimacy. How sad is that?
s, and we are told that the choking sensation is what freedom feels like.
Originally posted by Eidolon23
Originally posted by Taupin Desciple
Talk to her. Listen to her.
I think this right here is the best solution we could possibly throw down.
We have to work on reorienting our communication so that it's focused on understanding rather than manipulating one another.
Thanks.
"I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination. Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world."
Albert Einstein
“When you are courting a nice girl an hour seems like a second. When you sit on a red-hot cinder a second seems like an hour. That's relativity.”
― Albert Einstein
“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.”
― Albert Einstein
“Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.”
― Albert Einstein
Originally posted by LilDudeissocool
Originally posted by Eidolon23
Originally posted by Taupin Desciple
Talk to her. Listen to her.
I think this right here is the best solution we could possibly throw down.
We have to work on reorienting our communication so that it's focused on understanding rather than manipulating one another.
Thanks.
You paraphrased and spun an Einstein quote related to aspirations of achieving world peace. Bravo
Originally posted by Eidolon23
“Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.”
― Albert Einstein
That's something worth shouting in your sleep.edit on 25-2-2012 by Eidolon23 because: *yawn*
Originally posted by Eidolon23
Hey. incidentally I have been looking into the seedier aspects of Tantric Buddhism. Mainly where the act is used to siphon off the female partner's life force, and redirect the power toward other ends. Nasty stuff, and couched in the most offensive supermarket lit language you can imagine. Really.
Anne Rice would blush.
Anyways. It struck me that even the best of the Tantric systems encourage one to view the partner as an object. A means to an end. What if the Troubadours met the Tantrics? Tantra is the Reichian science of sex, but devoid of Love. And the Troubs were short on sex.
What happens when you put all the sweetness back into the erotic? Something awesome, I'd be guessing.edit on 25-2-2012 by Eidolon23 because: Unite. The. Fields.
Originally posted by galadofwarthethird
When will you two learn that there is no conspiracy against lovers. Maybe its time to face the facts that Ya'll crazy, and making stuff up. I would even say that maybe for some reason you just might get off it for some strange reasons.
Oh and just so you know gravity is responsible for everything even love, Eisenstein was wrong.