posted on Jan, 3 2012 @ 12:00 AM
reply to post by Frankidealist35
Taking all that you've said into consideration; keep your distance as it is for now. I know exactly what it's like to be in your position. I'd
suggest waiting for one of two conditions to develop before trying to help.
1) Let her initiate contact with you in which she discloses her situation and requests your input or thoughts.
2) She shows signs of distress or indicates her need or desire for your assistance.
Since you were both close, and assuming she knew you had the crush, it may add to the problems if you simply waltz into the situation and try to be
the knight in shining armor who's there to help. It'll open you and her both up to more hurt that way. There are some battles we have to fight on
our own, and there are others we have to fight on our own long enough to realize we can't actually do it alone. At this point it's up to her.
I will say this, while right now it may be best to let her handle it alone, be ready to provide the support she may need if the time comes. However,
make sure the "support" you provide is given with her best interest in mind, not your own.
Best of luck to everyone in this situation.