Let me start off by saying that the reason I'm making this thread is because I'm seeing a lot of people in the up and coming generation confused
about what they want in terms of relationships. Not only on these boards but in "real" life as well. Even people in my generation (46). It's my
thought that if you don't know exactly what you want, you're not going to get what you need. Companionship.
That's not to say that ALL young people are confused, but if you're one of the ones that are, maybe answering this qustion will help you out. For
those of you who know me, you know that I rely very heavily on music to help me get my point across. Those things being said, what is your idea of the
perfect date/relationship? Are you one of these people?:
Or one of these people:
Maybe you're somewhere inbetween ( Can't find a song to pinpoint THAT one )
Whatever type of person you are, you not only have to know it, but you have to be comfortable with it as well if you want to attract someone else who
is like you. I also believe that the age of two people shouldn't really matter that much. It's the experiences and maturity of both people that they
bring into the date/relationship that are going to make them "click" or not. And this applies to whether you both just want a one night stand or
something long lasting.
That's the type of thing you also want to bring to the table before you get too deep into anything. Even if all you're looking for is a one night
stand, having things in common with each other will make things a lot less awkward. That's assuming she would even let you in the door if you DON'T
have much in common. And again, I don't think the ages of two people dictate that much as to whether you have that much in common or not. It's what
you've been through and how you look at things. Some people are wise beyong their years and some people aren't.
I've been through quite a bit in my life and if there's one thing I've learned it's that time is a funny thing. It effects everyone differently
and people take different things out of the experiences they have.
When I was 15 I met a girl who was born on the exact same day month and year that I was. Come to find out later that we were born a half hour apart
from each other. Being as naive as I was at the time, I took that as a sign that we were meant to be together. Long story short, she's now very
religious and likes to knit. Alot. We don't have anything in common to speak of, so any relationship we would've had with each other wouldn't have
worked out in the long run. This is one reason why I believe that age doesn't matter much. While I'm on this topic, let me also say that even if you
think at the time that something will last a long time, don't set that idea in stone. Sometimes people grow apart. Everybody changes through life,
and sometimes those changes make it to where you're not compatible anymore.
The bottom line here is, you both have to be wanting the same thing for ANYTHING to work and your age has nothing to do with that. It's how you see
things now based on what you've been through.
So.............What is YOUR idea of the perfect date/relationship? Mine is one with a woman who not only see's things the way I do, like what I just
posted here for example, but also wants the same type of "physical activities" if you will, as I do. I'm a Scorpio so there isn't much that I
haven't tried at least once. Know who you are, accept it, find someone like that, but don't be so rigid to where can't bend a little to accomodate
for the kind of person she is. No matter how hard you try, you're never going to find someone who is EXACTLY like you in every way possible.
And above all else.............communicate.