LGBTuesday #1 - Why are all the gay guys so effeminate?, page 2

reply to post by Evanzsayz

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Ok I'm a little tipsy so I won't take it back what I said but try to correct it a little...its not a fake word its a real word used by fake people.

reply to post by Evanzsayz

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Ok, so seeing that ceaser no longer matters, lets tackle your Its disgusting comment.

Its simple: You dont have to think about me doing my boyfriend, just as I dont have to think about you doing your girlfriend! I think straight sex is DISGUSTING, and straights kissing is almost as revolting. You dont see me hating straights do you?

As for the mental disorder bit, Here is a list of people who disagree with you:

American Medical Association on Homosexuality
www.clgs.org...

American Psychiatric Association on Homosexuality
www.soulforce.org...

American Psychological Association on Homosexuality
www.apa.org...
www.apa.org...

American Psychoanalytic Association on Homosexuality
hem.passagen.se...

American Academy of Pediatrics on Homosexuality
www.clgs.org...

National Association of Social Workers on Homosexuality
www.socialworkers.org...

reply to post by tovenar

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Personally, I think that homosexuality is often the result of difficulty with a person's sexual development. Maybe not always, but a very high number of adult homosexual males were molested as youngsters. Others had absentee or difficult father figures. Not all of them of course; but I think it's truer than it would be among the straight population.

I never had been molested, had a father that was no more or less involved than anybody else, and knew since my friends started to like girls that I liked guys. Leading research shows that it may be estrogen from the females womb that changes a gay mans brain in the part that is where sexual thoughts are controlled. I guess in that sense it IS a mental disorder.

reply to post by darkredfish

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I don't think that sexual preference is a mental disorder. There may be something to it being hereditary to a degree, but the jury is out on that idea- it's still being researched.

Time was in the US- up to the mid-70's- that being gay was considered a mental disorder by psychiatry. I decided then & there that psychiatry was nonsense. I've had gay & bi friends since I was sixteen, & they all told me they were born that way. I've never thought that being bi or gay was anything but normal. Several of my friends were forced into mental hospitals by their parents once their orientation was discovered, with horrifying results (& there are families that still do this!). In each case, the friend left home, never to return. I couldn't blame them.

I have always thought that what most people consider 'masculine" or "feminine" are all too often the misnomers of culture- which change constantly over time. The important thing to remember always, is to be yourself.

reply to post by darkredfish

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Sexuality as an outcome of placental chemicals?

Personally, I doubt it. Human sexuality is a constellation of thoughts and behaviors. We are not like simpler life-forms, where it is a simply matter of chemicals. Any time you get a whole group of complex behaviors in humans, it's safe to assume that personal cognition and social interaction play some meaningful role.

Some research was done in the 1980's (back when researchers could still get funding for such things) that correlated same-sex acts in mice with population pressure. I was thinking of this research when I said that I believe a person is only as gay, only as straight, as their most recent sexual behavior.

Is a gay person's fantasy of hertero sex as sign that they are latently straight? Is a straight person's homosexual fantasy a sign that they are a latent homosexual? See, those are all just labels and categories, with more of a political-social definition, than a personality-trait definition.

Real people are far more complex than that.

Perhaps I should have said earlier that I was thinking of the stereotypical "queen" when talking about gays I've known who told of being molested or of emotionally absent fathers. In a demographic that includes millions of people, you are going to meet just about every imaginable variation of human personality.

reply to post by tovenar

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What you are talking about sounds a lot like this:
Kinsey Scale

I rate a 5 on this scale

and this too

reply to post by Annee

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Yes,but its the practicallyoffensive in your face way of it,its put on,simply to fit in with the "Im as camp as get out,everyone look at me" and yes i am fully aware this is not all gay people,just like i am straight and would'nt be a suitable case study fora straight person,but there is a high number that match my previous post that are just deliberatly acting as girly and effeminate as possible to gain popularity with all the stupid sluts looking for a "fag hag",ya know the kinda gay that must see glee and use the word super and fabulous constantly,and try to capture the dumb LA blonde kinda persona.I dont personally have a problem with gays,hell do what ya like its a free(ish) world.But why do gays need gay pride marches,yet wedont have straight pride marches??

Originally posted by ScottishBiker420
reply to post by Annee

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Yes,but its the practically offensive in your face way of it,its put on,simply to fit in with the "Im as camp as get out,everyone look at me"

I'm not offended by it. I think its fun.

You need to consider that the problem of being offended is yours - - - not theirs.

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