Today's question comes from a U2U that I assume since it was a U2U, The person does not want their name disclosed.
Why are all the gay guys so effeminate?
I find this question simple, but also equally interesting.
Many straight people think that gay men are effeminate because the ones they MEET are effeminate. There are MANY of us out there, in fact, according
to a study:
The average estimates were that 21% of men are gay and 22% of women are lesbians. In fact, roughly a quarter of the public thinks more than 25%
of men and 25% of women are homosexual. It should be pointed out, too, that many Americans (at least one in six) could not give an estimate.
You see, we are not all "Glitter and rainbows everywhere", in fact, very few of us are that way. Saying so is like saying all straight woman are
proper and prim, while all men are butch and curly. According to this study, at LEAST one in every 5 people you meet on average, has some homosexual
feeling that they have acted upon at one point or another. The reason so many people think that:
Gay = Girly
Is because thats the type you MEET. When I meet sombody, the first thing I say is not "Hi, im gay"' No! the first thing I do is say my name, what im
doing at the moment, what im doing that weekend, my intrests, and maybe, in the course of our conversation I will mention that I am gay.
Example: I walk up to a lady, and she is picking up parts of her purse that fell out. I stop and help her, and she invites me to have a drink at the
coffee shop. I agree, and we talk over coffees. I talk about myself, and she talks about her, untill finally I mention that I am doing somthing with
my boyfriend this weekend.
This above example has never happened, but you get the point. For many of us, gay is not us. We are not "Your gay friend" or "The gay guy", we are
"Your smart friend" or "That hipster guy". Most the time in fact, when I mention that I am gay, I get shocked faces, No joke, people can NOT TELL
untill I say it.
Also, not all effeminate men are gay!! There is this thing called "Metrosexual" where a guy, straight as a plank, likes traditionaly female things.
Fun fact: Did you know most cross dressers are straight?
So, to answer this question simply:
Q. Why are all the gay guys so effeminate?
A. We are not, just the ones you can tell are gay are. Gays come in many shapes and sizes, and to say that gays are effeminate is like saying that all
straight men sit on the couch drinking beer watching football when they are off of work.
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edit on 15-11-2011 by darkredfish because: Screwed up
edit on 15-11-2011 by darkredfish because: (no reason given)