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Originally posted by celticdog
reply to post by ottobot
I have learned to get rid of past pain is to confront it personally or mentally so you can let it go. Having no contact with your parents has and will cause you pain. Your parents are hurting too. This first pain caused the rest so go back to source to heal.
Apologize to them ,apologize to yourself..It is tough to speak your mind when you have never done it.
I use to be just quiet and walk away from confrontation. My Dad is a talker/controller but not really a listener.He means well but if I keep letting him do it to me it makes me feel bad.So I have put the boundary up which upsets him.I have done it several times and he is starting to listen just a little bit.It is having your own personal boundaries is the way.
That is an interesting idea. I will try it sometime.
Here's a tip project the colour pink around the person you are having a problem with and push your energy towards them and say stop in your head. You cant let their energy take over yours then you become weak and feel drained after being around them.
Have you given thought that maybe you might be empathic. You take on feelings of others but think they are your own. It makes you over whelmed with loads of feelings.I didnt know I did this for years now I have learned to put a shell around me to block those feelings from others which in turn you get to your true feelings.
Yes, I have been grounding myself. I have been learning to stand my ground in all things. I have always been very disciplined and stuff, but I would just let other people get their way because I had no strong opinions about anything. Now, I realize that I should do what I need to do to Live (as opposed to Survive). So, this is my current path - learning to Live within my life.
Number one chakra to start with is the root chakra to ground yourself other wise you are like a balloon,floating about with all kinds of feelings then work on the others.....................Take care and here to help