reply to post by TravelerintheDark
Nice thread! I just have a couple things I want to share.
First off, I think defining love is important. I mean...really what is it? Most of us have a good general idea what love is and can use hundreds of
examples to explain it, but really we have to break it down a bit...for example:
Is love a learned behavior, many argue that it is, we learn to love by and through the examples that are instilled in us as we grow and develop into
compassionate (compassion might need to be defined too) adults and begin to show our children, grandchildren, etc...what love is in our experience
(meaning what we have learned either from others, or through a series of our own accounts). One question posed by behaviorists of our time is if we
as toddlers love our mother, or if we are simply acting on what has been learned...mom feeds me, comforts me, and protects me...now mom's love is
genuine for the sake of defining it this way...but as a small child do we actually love? Or are we rather acting on instinct and survival at our most
Then secondly, I think there is a clear separation between perception and senses. What we physically sense gives us a perception on how to react or
respond to a situation...and vise versa at times...how we perceive something dictates how we act.
Do we act out of love, or do we love out of acts by others? Loving someone like Hitler might pose a problem for many people, but I assure you someone
did at one time love Hitler, and even in his death there were people that mourned for their own loss. At the same time many people would agree that
Hitler did not love a single breathing soul...but then we are right back to questioning did he love as a child, and was it love? Well we have to
clearly define what love is to each of us, in general it can be explained, but it is a very individual thing (emotion, feeling, behavior, etc...) and
each of us has our own personal account and explanation of what love is, that makes it difficult to ascertain whether someone is expressing love and
we only have our own personal experiences to rely on for determining that.
I think it is a catch-22...yes people show love in many ways...what is our perception on their expression of it? Does it come with a smile...a
hug...the words...how do we think it should be expressed? The way mothers in some African tribes raise their children, we would in America call them
monsters and not showing anything close love...but the mother of that child would passionately declare her love for her child. See where this is
going? It seems to be related to our own experiences and the behaviors that we learned mean love...it seems to be felt as emotion, and maybe both are
correct, but behavior is a huge factor.
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