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Originally posted by James1982
I still think I wasn't clear enough on what I meant by controlling thoughts and emotions. The language I used was pretty open to interpretation so that's my bad.
What I meant as far as controlling thoughts and emotions, is not just being aware of them, and channeling them in positive ways. I meant COMPLETE control, as in, a racist person NEVER feeling that "I don't like blacks" feeling, or a pedophile NEVER feeling attracted to children again, or a necrophilliac NEVER feeling attracted to dead bodies, or a homosexual NEVER feeling attracted to the same sex, an anti-semite NEVER feeling the "I don't like jews" feeling.
And the second part of the reason I made this thread, can you blame people for feeling the way they do? Not acting on anything, but are people BAD people just because of the way they FEEL? Or does one have to put their feelings into action before they become a "bad" person?
Thanks for all the replies, BTW, I wasn't expecting so many people to respond lol.
Originally posted by TKDRL
reply to post by RRokkyy
I disagree with the part that thinking is a disease.... If no one thought, we would all just be blind followers.
Originally posted by James1982
1. Racism:
Do you believe this is wrong? Is a person somehow bad for having these feelings, even though they cannot control them? Or do you think they CAN control them? If so, how? Obviously those that ACT on such thoughts, and attack other races verbally or physically, or spread hateful ideas are different, but I'm talking specifically about someone who treats everyone with the greatest respect, but still just doesn't "like" another race for whatever reason. Would you judge such a person? If so, what do you think gives you that right?
Originally posted by James1982
2. Homophobia:
So isn't it hypocritical to view people in a negative light simply because they are "against" gays? If someone in their heart just really doesn't like gay people, but still shows them respect in person, would you have anything against them? If so, why? Do you feel they can somehow change their feelings? If so, why couldn't a gay person change their feelings as well, and start being attracted to the opposite sex?
Originally posted by James1982
3. Pedophiles, and other people who have socially unacceptable sexual desires:
Do you personally feel a someone is evil, immoral, disgusting, dangerous, etc for being attracted to underage people? Just like previously, this is not about those that act on their feelings. But instead about someone who simply FEELs a certain way, whos mind thinks things that they cannot control, or (I'll ask again) can someone control what they think? Try not to think about a cheeseburger for the rest of your life. Can you do it? Are we in control over our thoughts, and if not, how can we be blamed for them?
Just like a homosexual who is attracted to the same sex, without a choice in the matter, some people are attracted to children, without a choice in the manner. If they NEVER act on such things, and do not ever get involved with any illegal aspects, and never hurt a child, would you hate such a person? Just because they unwillingly FEEL a certain way, would you judge them? How? Why? Do you think they can control who or what they are attracted to? If not, than isn't it wrong to judge someone for something they have no control over?
What about people who are attracted sexually to animals, but don't ever engage in beastiality? Or someone who is extremely attracted to dead bodies, but never kills someone, or actually has sex with one? Would you judge such a person for simply possessing certain feelings? How? Why?
Just so I understand your opinion, do you agree with me that someone can never completely stop themselves from feeling a certain emotion, or thinking a thought, the best they can hope for is to lessen the impact these thoughts and emotions have on their lives?
Employing a commonly used Implicit Association Test (IAT), researchers asked 50 racially diverse participants to rate the trustworthiness of individuals depicted in just under 300 photographs of Black, White, Asian, Hispanic, and mixed race men on a scale from one ("not-at-all trustworthy") to nine ("extremely trustworthy"). The participants were instructed to report their initial "gut impressions."
The researchers found that the participants' implicit race attitudes, measured in a subsequent test, predicted disparities in the perceived trustworthiness of Black and White faces. Individuals whose tests demonstrated a stronger pro-White implicit bias were more likely to judge White faces as more trustworthy than Black faces, and vice versa, regardless of that individual's own race or explicit beliefs.
In a similar experiment using another group of participants, the researchers assessed how implicit racial biases may affect economic or business decisions. Participants were shown the images of the same individuals used in the first experiment and told these individuals were the subjects' partners and had been previously interviewed by the experimenter. Participants then had to make decisions about how much money they would risk with these partners.
The researchers found that participants' implicit racial biases predicted racial disparities in the amounts of money participants were willing to risk in this trust-based interpersonal economic interaction. Specifically, individuals whose IAT scores reflected a stronger pro-White implicit bias were likely to offer more money to White than Black partners and vice versa.
According to the authors, the results suggest that implicit biases toward social groups may drive rapid evaluations of unfamiliar individuals in the absence of additional information, despite our conscious desires and intentions.
While the study's subjects in both experiments included multiple racial groups, the race of the participants did not account for the findings.
"There is not a simple correspondence between individuals' implicit racial attitudes and their own race," the researchers explained. "Implicit attitudes are thought to result from many sources beyond one's own race, including environmental exposure and personal interactions."
Originally posted by James1982
reply to post by Amaterasu
So (assuming you are heterosexual) you could just choose to be homosexual if you felt like it? You could actually induce strong feelings of attraction for the same gender?
I think that people can keep a handle on their feelings and emotions, and block out things to a certain degree. And I absolutely think that people can control their words and actions. But to completely stop a thought from ever entering your mind, or to completely banish an emotion about a certain subject, I truly believe this to be impossible.
Thanks for the suggestion on Choice Theory. I am currently looking into it
Originally posted by wildtimes
reply to post by Amaterasu
While your points are valid in many ways, it's not a cart-and-horse thing. Emotions are a separate realm from thought. People who meditate a lot, trying to release all thoughts, and to recognize emotions as they arise, are more able to deal with life.
Emotions are not caused just by thoughts. Emotions are the brain's alert system.
My dad died last year, and I was grieving deeply for a long time. Emotions are responses to stimulus, not to thoughts.
Sorry, and I've read Glasser and appreciate your mentioning him, but emotions are not CAUSED just by thoughts. They can be caused by events, stressors, crises, any number of life events.
Thoughts CAN BE triggered by emotions, but a person need not be in a heightened emotional state to have a thought. They affect one another. They are not cause and effect.
You seem to be suggesting that the emotions somehow get the attention of the mind when there is danger. Like, "Why am I feeling this fear? I had better look around.
What is labelled as mental illness, regardless of the causation, are the hundreds of ways people choose to behave when they are unable to satisfy basic genetic needs, such as love and power, to the extent they want. (Page xvi of the Preface)
Choice theory explains that all behavior is made up of four distinct but inseparable components: acting, thinking, feeling, and the physiology that accompanies all three....all we can choose are two of the four components: our actions and thoughts.
page 66
Why one person will panic, another will obsess, and still another will depress or choose another symptom is not yet known.
It's not like an event occurs and a feeling is pushed into Your head.