posted on Aug, 9 2004 @ 03:54 PM
When I read your post, I thought to myself, this poor dude is under 25. He hasn't been in the workforce long enough to realize that no one ever
thanks you for pointing out the fact that "there is a turd in the punch-bowl." If you say anything, they automatically assume YOU put it there.
You may or may not be sexist; but you are definitely naive for even mentioning this hyper-obvious fact, that men are the serfs. Just look at
Her: Did you call to get the air conditioner fixed?
Him: uhhh . . . urr . . . gggghhh. I'll call tomorrow.
Her: (laughing). Honey . . . you'll call right now.
Him: (laughing sheepishly) I'll call now.
I'm surprised you continue to pursue this thread. No one is EVER going to give you a pat on the back for being a competent straight white male. So
quit expecting it.
you will learn what everyone else does. The REAL sexism is that folks gravitate toward white males because you know that everything this guy does
gets picked apart. In order to stay in his position, the white guy has too be very careful and back up all his suggestions with lots of evidence,
because of who he is.
If you ever sit in on research discussions, you'll see this real quick. A woman or minority can to some half-a***d job and turn in an incoherent
report, and gets thanked for it. If the white male does that, he'll be put on trial for incompetence. So naturally, people assume you've done your
homework, since you are under so much scrutiny.
I've noticed this time and again. At first, I was really angry about it, and tried to change things. I eventually realized that people knew that I
did my own work, and did the work for most of my research team. Even though I had to share the credit, everyone knew the work was mine, and respected
me for it.
It's stupid, but you cannot change it. And people despise you for pointing it out to them.
Lotsa luck, chum.