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8 February 2011 Last updated at 04:56 ET Share this pageFacebookTwitter ShareEmail Print Should a teenager be left to babysit a toddler? By Marie Jackson
BBC News
A mother has been given an official police caution for leaving her 14-year-old son in charge of his three-year-old brother. So at what age can children be left at home alone without parental supervision?
It's a story that would sound alarm bells for many mothers and fathers.
Any parent who sometimes nips out to the shops, leaving their children to look after each other, will take note.
Or with the prospect of a rare night out, the couple that offers £20 to a sensible teenage neighbour in return for keeping an eye on their little ones, may now think again.
A mother-of-three from the Thames Valley area has been cautioned by police after leaving her 14-year-old son at home with his little brother.
Sources quoted in the Sunday Times are reported as saying the mother, in her 40s, was away for 30 minutes, the time passed without "incident" and the toddler was never in any danger.
It's very rare to hear about cases like this, but is 14 too young to be babysitting and might more parents find themselves facing a caution?
At the heart of this is what all parents of teenagers - and anyone who has ever been a teenager - knows, that one 14-year-old can differ dramatically from another in their maturity and reliability.
The law on this is vague but the police can - and do - use their discretion in judging these cases.
There is no minimum age at which children can be left on their own, nor does the law specify how old someone needs to be to babysit. However, if the babysitter is under 16, then the parent remains legally responsible for the child's safety.
And, under the Children and Young Persons Act, parents can be prosecuted for wilful neglect if they leave a child unsupervised "in a manner likely to cause unnecessary suffering or injury to health". Punishment ranges from a fine to 10 years' imprisonment.
Without legally specified ages to guide them, parents may be left scratching their heads over this grey area.
But children's charity, the NSPCC, advises that children under 13 should not be left at home alone for long periods and children under 16 should not be put in charge of younger children.
Chris Cloke, from the NSPCC, says calls to its Childline helpline showed that being left alone to look after young children can be distressing - one 10-year-old boy called to say he had no idea how to comfort his younger brother to stop him crying.
Jacqui Gilliatt, a family law barrister, says there are difficulties with bringing in an age barrier as it would only ever be arbitrary and you will never eliminate the need for agencies or authorities to step in if something came to light.
She points out that parents do not have to accept a caution, which indicates an admission of guilt. Instead, she advises seeking legal advice and perhaps putting the case before a magistrate.
"Children are becoming less competent because they are being treated like carefully protected pets”
Sue Palmer
*snip*
Child development specialist and author of Toxic Childhood Sue Palmer argues that parents, as well as too much legislation in the UK, are part of the problem.
"Children are becoming less competent because they are being treated like carefully protected pets.
"Unless you let them take on chores and take responsibility for their own behaviour and learn to deal with real time, space and people, you won't be able to leave them in charge of another child."
But she also says such state interference, including the recent threat of more criminal record checks for people working with children, means people are ceasing to use common sense and losing their own ability to judge other human beings.
But children's charity, the NSPCC, advises that children under 13 should not be left at home alone for long periods and children under 16 should not be put in charge of younger children.
This is 'family busting' by breaking up the family if the police decide to take the children away from their mother instead of giving a warning. I don't think the police should be involved in this decision.
Originally posted by topdog30
reply to post by hotbakedtater
How is this family busting?
Its hard to say at what age you can in trust a child to look after another. I used to babysit some toddlers when I was younger and had no problems other than changing a poopie diaper. Its sad to say that there are parents who lack any sensible reasoning and need the police or neighbours to help guide their decisions making.
I don't know the answer to this. Kids are definitely different from when I was a kid and I'm only 30. Whats with kids getting all padded up to ride a bicycle?
Originally posted by comody88
This is 'family busting' by breaking up the family if the police decide to take the children away from their mother instead of giving a warning. I don't think the police should be involved in this decision.
Originally posted by topdog30
reply to post by hotbakedtater
How is this family busting?
Its hard to say at what age you can in trust a child to look after another. I used to babysit some toddlers when I was younger and had no problems other than changing a poopie diaper. Its sad to say that there are parents who lack any sensible reasoning and need the police or neighbours to help guide their decisions making.
I don't know the answer to this. Kids are definitely different from when I was a kid and I'm only 30. Whats with kids getting all padded up to ride a bicycle?
Originally posted by amkia
I Am sorry but 14 years old kid shouldn’t be in charge of taking care of youngsters.
Let the kids be “kids”, feel like kids, live like kids, experience like kids...
"Children are becoming less competent because they are being treated like carefully protected pets.
Originally posted by amkia
I Am sorry but 14 years old kid shouldn’t be in charge of taking care of youngsters.