reply to post by youdidntseeme
I'm a woman and I totally agree that the courts are biased against men in custody issues, for sure. My husband has worked the same job for over a
decade, never had a lapse in employment, never been on welfare or aide of any sort, pays his taxes, believes in god but doesn't go to church, and was
faithful to his ex for 7 years (she cheated on him and left). Not only that, but when he first got together with her she had a baby from another
person, and my husband raised not only his child with her, but the baby she had when he met her, for ALL those years.
When she first left him, she would leave the kids with him all the time, or her family, and distanced herself from the kids. Then she married the guy
she left him for, and took the kids back (too bad her husband was abusive to all the kids) and she stayed with him until she realized HE was cheating
on her (lol). So once she moved out she started leaving the kids with us all the time again, and if they weren't with us then they were with someone
else or allowed to run the street (both kids were under 10 years old then). Because her life centers on finding a guy, not on her children.
So then she met a new guy who also has a kid, and they all move in together in an apartment too small to fit them all, kids don't even have their own
beds, and she starts taking the kids away AGAIN. And it's been that way for the past year now, ignoring our phone calls, setting up dates to pick up
the kids and then the kids aren't there when we go to get them, or she says she doesn't know where they are (!?), she never helps in dropping off and
picking up, not letting my husband speak to his son on the phone, bad mouthing us to the kids, etc. She got social services called on her at the end
school this past year, right before summer break, and ever since she's been keeping his son away from us even more. And to make the situation even
more messed up, we just found out she's pregnant again with this new guy (let's see how easy it is to fit 3 kids, 2 adults, and a newborn in a 2
bedroom apartment?!) She hasn't let him come over here in 4 months, only will let my husband see him during the day (very sporadically).
And she spends all her child support and welfare money on herself, and I am in no way exaggerating. She's got her nice car, her nice clothes, jewelry,
make up, hair done, nails done, yet the kids don't have their own mattresses to sleep on and fight over the couch.
My point, I'm pretty sure we are taking her to court soon. And I'm afraid of the outcome over the bias against fathers in custody cases. Keep your
fingers crossed for me, anyone who reads this.
I just hate seeing my husband go through this, knowing all he has done for those kids over the years. I know it really hurts him. And he's a good dad,
he should be able to see those kids. He's never missed child support, and was originally paying two payments (one for the kid who isn't even his!).
She doesn't even care that he still wants to be the other boy's dad, too. He raised him for 10 years. He was the only "dad" that boy knew. It's so
unfair to the kids.
edit on 12/2/2010 by SpaceJ because: (no reason given)