posted on Aug, 18 2010 @ 09:17 AM
I'm not sure I understand your question... I'll say this though, If a woman is interested in you... you will know it.. she will pick up the phone.
She will call you back. If you go out on a date and you wait a few days before you call her and then she doesn't pick up the phone or return your
call.. well it wasn't because you waited a few days to call her.. it's because SHE'S NOT THAT IN TO YOU.
I like to use what I call the "Brad Pitt Analogy"... if a celebrity "hunk" like Brad Pitt or one of those dudes from Twilight asked a woman out on
a date, the women WILL be there.. she would drop whatever plans she had to go out... she wouldn't make excuses.. she wouldn't call Brad last minute
and cancel plans.. if Brad waited a couple of days to call that chick back.. you can bet you ass that girl will sit and stare at her phone for days
until he does call.
So you see, the point is.. if a girl is interested in you, she won't play games.. she won't change plans.. she won't not return your phone calls...
if she plays game, then she's not interested ... so you should cut your losses and move on to the next girl.. That's not an easy thing to do, but in
the long run it's best..."there's plenty of fish in the sea".. and guess what, you don't have to be Brad Pitt to catch a good woman. you just
have to know what you're doing.
Single girls... they are complicated.. most of the time they don't know what they want... sometimes they have 2 or 3 guys after them at the same
time... you might take her out on a Friday... then on Sat she has a date set with another guy... or she goes out with her girl friends to a bar she
meets a new guy. That's what woman do.. and that's what you need to do. Just because you go on a date with a women, doesn't mean you can't or
shouldn't talk to other women. The more girls you talk to, the more ph numbers you get.. the better chance you have to land a nice girl that you can
have a serious relationship with.. and until then, just have fun dating. Don't be a jealous guy either, they hate that.
Woman today are not like woman of the 1950s... woman are the "players" these days and don't let any woman tell you otherwise... even the nice chick
that gave me props for my first post.. I bet she's a playette too.
Like I told you in my first post.. a girl is not your girl friend until you've gone on at least 15-20 dates .. and then you have to ask her to be
your girl friend... until then, she's just some girl you've hung out with a bunch of times.. maybe you even kissed a few times... even if you kiss
her, she's not your gf... if you have sex with her on the 2nd date.. still doesn't mean she's your gf... that doesn't mean she even wants to be
your gf.. maybe she just wanted some sex.
You mentioned that your 21... you're still young and you have a lot to learn.. I’m 25 and I’m still young and have a lot to learn... no guy is
great with woman off that bat... ever guy gets rejected.. every guy has bad 1st dates.. every guy has made the mistake of getting too attached to a
woman too soon.. everyone gets their heart broken sometimes... it's natural.. what you need to go is just get yourself out there and don't be afraid
to fall of the dating horse and get back on... it might take you a few months to find the right girl.. or even a few years... but if you don't try,
then you will definitely be alone
so get out there and start talking to some girls.. get a number, then go on a date... take her out.. have a plan.. dinner and a movie will always be a
good first date... but here's some advice, go to the movie first, then dinner.. so you have something to talk about during dinner... on the 2nd
date.. try mini golf or bowling.. or some sort of activity you can do together... one woman at a time, one date at a time.
I'll give you the weekend.. come back on monday and tell us how you went out and talked to 5 girls and got 2 phone numbers :-)