posted on Mar, 2 2010 @ 08:58 AM
gazerstar.. thanks for the laugh.
I don't think women are aliens, well, no more than all human beings are in the bigger picture.
Not to sound sexist or anything, but... this is an inbuilt thing in women. Ever since humans lived in caves women have sought a better mate/provider,
so it is hard-wired into them. To do so required some serious wiles to create opportunities to take advantage of and get that better mate to supply
stronger offspring, etc.
Women, like men, don't like living bored. They much prefer some excitement in their day, hence the strange fascination with the bad-boy image, and
hence the apparent need to create Drama when their is no other earthly need for it. And that is something as a single dad that really distrubed me. I
thought my daughter growing up without a manipulative female around would turn out to be different.. WRONG!! That too is hard wired in and so I have
an amazing drama queen in my house yet again.
But let us not forget that without women there is no human race, and basically, men are to help create offspring and then to supply enough food and
clothing to ensure they grow up. After that, men are old and basically not needed anymore except to make a coffee and talk to sometimes about things
that don't interest him much... dang, where is the laughing smiley?
On a serious note... the communication problem between men and women is because of something so simple that most of us guys can't see it. That reason
is:- When a women says something, she knows what she Intends with the words used.. as do males, but, a women also instills their words with the
emotions they are feeling when speaking. Men hear the words spoken, understand them as one does from a dictionary, and yet totally misses the
emotional content within the words used. Thus communication troubles because the really important information was in the emotional content moreso than
the words spoken.
Remedy for the above situation:- Parents should raise their children as children, not separately as boys and girls, so that girls do different things
and communicate differently than boys. Teach all kids to communicate effectively and that age old problem is solved in a generation or two.
Lastly, when this is happening to you.. or this just ask the person this question, "What hurts you so much that you feel the need to