i need some help, advice, anything, please

reply to post by Gazrok


Yes I agree it is a drastic suggestion and I don't really expect him to take my advice but I do think it is something to think about.

A colonel I know told me this, "In high school I messed around a lot and I was immature but then when I joined the military it was like bam I became a mature man. The military really forced me to grow up from a child into a man in a really short period of time."

So when I saw this topic this quote immediately popped into my head, so that was where my suggestion to consider the military came in. I'm suggesting to join the military really to grow as a person than to run away, although spending time away could be beneficial too.

As for getting shipped to Iraq or Afghanistan, it really depends on what branch you join. If you join infantry, then yeah, you have a pretty good chance to go to a war zone. But there are a lot of non-combat branches like intelligence and finance that give you a chance to experience military life without having to fight in a battle.

reply to post by l neXus l


For things to change you will have to change she will not change you you will have

to change in a good way, and you will not change her she will have to change

herself. So most marriages get into a rut now and then so do something that

gets her attention.


Take a large table cloth or blanket and spread it out on the floor in the Den

or living room and tell her you and her are going to have a picnic. Serve

cheese, bread, grapes, wine and what ever you know she likes and have

some nice music playing with the volume down low for you can talk.


Have fun together but remember she wants you to be more mature. Take

her to an art museum or a play. Show her attention by opening a door for

her or helping her with her coat. Simple things like fixing her breakfast in bed

once a week especially on the weekends. Be creative and you do not have to

try that hard if you truly love her but remember have fun together and

laugh together.


It depends how much you yourself want to change verses how much she

wants you to change. ^Y^


[edit on 13-3-2010 by amari]