posted on Feb, 2 2010 @ 11:07 AM
Originally posted by l neXus l
we do sit down and talk all the time, its the same conversation, i say ill change and she says ok and it just keeps repeating itself, we both are very
very much in love, and don't want to get a divorce, we want to make it last, its just been super hard, im 21 almost 22 and she just turned 23 so were
still young, but we both want it to work, its just been so hard,
There's your answer. Just married too young. Did either of you have a chance to experience life? Just asking.
I married at 21 and was divorced at 28. Yeah, I "tried" for 7 years, but when you're not in love any more, you can't make it work.
As someone else said, communication is essential in any relationship. Let her know how you're feeling. Ask her what she's feeling and what she
wants, tell her what you want.
Be prepared though, she might just tell you that she doesn't want to be married any more.
Maybe a little break from each other would help. Is there some place that you or she could go for a week or so? Time apart does wonders.
When you do talk with her and say that you'll try to do better, do you really try? It's tough, it's a battle, but it's one that must be fought if
you're going to succeed.
Marriage is give and take and both parties must be willing to look at it that way and do the giving and taking.
the problem is i dont trust her, she started talking to a guy on facebook who is super rich and in the air force and lives on the beach and all
this stuff and they talked on the phone behind my back and she even had phone sex with him, she said its because she wanted something new, and now he
keeps calling and she still talks to him and wont listen to me to stop
as stated, absolutely unacceptable. It appears that she "wants" him and it creating more problems with you in order to get what she wants. Be
blunt and ask her if this is the case.
Have you thought about counciling? Might help?
I wish you the best, good luck.
[edit on 2-2-2010 by elevatedone]