AshleyD pretty much nailed it, but I propose some added caution!
Do not let your wife get onto anti-depressants or other brain chemical altering drugs! We all have deepseated anguish and pain, but our conscious
mind keeps it under control. When we begin to tinker with that fine chemical balance, things go haywire.
All anti-depressants come with warnings for that very reason. There are many documented cases of people becoming homicidal or suicidal after
beginning these drugs.
I have 2 personal experiences with negative results. A newcaster friend of mine was murdered by his wife in our hometown, and they were not having
any problems at the time. She got a simple prescription to help her with some anxiety and a few weeks later she killed him in his sleep, and she
claimed to not even know why??
My first wife came home one day and asked me to move out. We weren't fighting, or having any problems, and we had just had our 10 year anniversary.
Several months later (after the divorce) she told me that she had been taking anti-depressants to help her overcome some shyness at work (she was a
bank officer). She knew I didn't like them, so she didn't tell me. The longer she took them, the more disconnected with her life she felt! Over
the next couple of years we stayed friends, but her personality continued to change, and she had violent mood swings, and she wound up moving home
with her mother!
One common denominator between these instances, is both women were taking the medication prescribed by a family practitioner (not a psychiatrist), and
in both cases the medication was prescribed WRONG! There was no "ramp up"period, and there was no constant contact or therapy sessions to measure
the success or failure of the prescription. In the case of my wife, the doctor even made the huge mistake of switching her medication several times
in midstream without any ramp up or ramp down, and against all the accepted practices and published warnings of doing so!!
In conclusion, I hope everything works out for you and your wife, and I would take a deep look at the sources of stress and heartache in your wife's
life that you may not realize are there.............BUT DO NOT LET A REGULAR DOCTOR CONVINCE HER TO TAKE DRUGS TO HELP HER SLEEP OR REDUCE HER
ANXIETY!! Therapy...yes, Psychiatrist....yes, Help from Hubby and family....yes, DRUGS=NO!!