Originally posted by Flighty
If no one was asked about their sexuality before, then why make it an issue now??
If you truly don't get it, let me explain.
Under "Don't ask, don't tell", heterosexual people can talk about their relationships and have a picture of their spouse on their wall. The men
can freely express their sexuality by flirting with the girls and discussing with the other straight men who is "hot" or whatever.
On the other hand, gays are not permitted to have pictures of their partners, talk about their relationship or in any way reveal that they are gay. In
other words, they can ACT like they're straight (concealing their true selves) or ACT like they don't have any sexuality at all (concealing their
true selves).
It's not that sexuality is a "big deal", but as human beings, it is part of who we are and does come into discussions and the every day living of
our lives, whether we're in the military or not.

I don't know how many times I've talked about my husband here on ATS. And I'm not even talking
about my sexuality. He's just a big part of my life and as such, he comes into the discussion. But in the military, gay people have to keep quiet
about that.
Hope that helps.