Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
Originally posted by Flighty
If no one was asked about their sexuality before, then why make it an issue now??
If you truly don't get it, let me explain.![]()
Under "Don't ask, don't tell", heterosexual people can talk about their relationships and have a picture of their spouse on their wall. The men can freely express their sexuality by flirting with the girls and discussing with the other straight men who is "hot" or whatever.
On the other hand, gays are not permitted to have pictures of their partners, talk about their relationship or in any way reveal that they are gay. In other words, they can ACT like they're straight (concealing their true selves) or ACT like they don't have any sexuality at all (concealing their true selves).
It's not that sexuality is a "big deal", but as human beings, it is part of who we are and does come into discussions and the every day living of our lives, whether we're in the military or not.I don't know how many times I've talked about my husband here on ATS. And I'm not even talking about my sexuality. He's just a big part of my life and as such, he comes into the discussion. But in the military, gay people have to keep quiet about that.
Hope that helps.
I think you are the one that does not get it.
The majority of people don't care for homosexuals and it's even higher in the Military. The "Don't ask, Don't tell" policy protects them if anything.
If you have been in the Military, you would know what I mean.
Blanket party anyone?
You can't cram too much close quarter stuff down the Militaries throat, because they will re-act to it.
In the general sence it might not be completely fair. But you are asking a lot of someone in the Military. You are asking them to do what you will not do.
Unless you are willing to do what they do for you, don't tell them how to do it, and what the rules of the game must be.
Most people have in mind an office setting. Even the one's that do this, must go thru the same hard crap in training as the rest.



