I'm going to manipulate the context of this thread, so it cannot be related to a 'wondering person' whom I may be speaking of, or for non identifiable reasons.

I'm just going to put this out there, and see what comes back.

Personally speaking this is you...

You've met a person.

Their fundamental foundations, their core, and their being, isn't but shaken, it is broken.

They, are in a constant mental anguish.

Their family, is deceased, or absent in their life.

They were just diagnosed, with terminal cancer, they only have three months left to live.

They aren't bed ridden, but can go out.

Chemo- yes.

Pain- Extreme.

Friends- None.

The constant acknowledgment of death, creeping closer, by each day, each hour, each minute, each second, and each moment.

Now you've met...

Under, extreme coincidental circumstances (everything, fit like a puzzle coincidentally)

Now, say you've felt the enormous feeling to help, or make that person have the greatest last days of their life.

Since there is no one else.

Now what would you want the last, three months of your life to be like?

And what would you do for a person, a near mere stranger who had three months to live?

More so, if you were to be pronounced dead in three months.

And you were in the situation announced above, what would your ideal last three months be like.

Saying said duties could only come from a near mere stranger, with ambition.

Great question, as usual Republican. S&F for making me really think about something this evening.

S&F for ya. although, I cant answer yet, because its going to take a little more time. Will get back to ya later on this.

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Originally posted by grantbeed
Great question, as usual Republican. S&F for making me really think about something this evening.

S&F for ya. although, I cant answer yet, because its going to take a little more time. Will get back to ya later on this.

g.

Glad you'll give it thought, it's pretty real to me....

I would really like to know your take of an answer on it.

Thanks for the appreciation.

I dunno. At the moment I couldn't really care about living so I'd probably just count down the 3 months and happily depart onto another world.

very interesting question , as I've had to ask the question more often than one would ever wish to.
In 2007 my brain tumor returned as the most aggressive form. My parents were told I only had month's to live. At the time I was planning funerals and writing my will, even though I knew deep down I was gonna live longer.

All I wanted was to be with those closest to me. Friends and family. Now seeing as your friend has little in the way of Family and friends, you need to find out what's important in their life.

I love spending days by the sea, even if its cold. I love being in the countryside. All possible external stresses need to be removed.
3 month's can go very quickly so make sure you don't waist any time on trivialities.

Republican08 this is going to be a balancing act. if your friend is on chemo and in pain, there are certain things your not going to be able to do. we have a charity here in the UK that provides experiences for terminally ill people. I took my family whale watching in Scotland, or you can organise to go to a football game and meet the players. go for a flight in a glider. basically they do their best to make sure you have an amazing day

Maybe you have similar charities that you could take advantage of. If your going to help your going to need to be the proactive one and sort all these things out.

It would be an amazing thing for you to do! 3 months is a short time,but you can cram some real joy and happiness in there. just imagine how important that will be for your friend.

Originally posted by Whine Flu
I dunno. At the moment I couldn't really care about living so I'd probably just count down the 3 months and happily depart onto another world.

I honestly don't believe that, sorry.

Even as a atheist, I fear death. I don't want to, not be.

And for christians, all they have is hope, but still they Don't want to die.

No one wants to die, albeit we, including myself have tried suicide.

But dying from a cause other then your own terms, is a whole nother obstacle.

I don't think, you could honestly spend 3 months, day for day, hour for hour, and be happy death was coming.

That as far as was known, was you'd miss out on everything.

The thoughts, would be a burden I wouldn't wish on my worst enemies.

Bahhh!

This hits a little too close to home for me. I lost may father to cancer when I was 17 then my mom about 6 years ago to it and then my favorite brother inlaw 2 years ago.

From what I've experienced first hand about them was once they reached a certain point they accepted their fate and they were at peace with themselves and others. Nothing bothered them anymore. I wish I could be that serene and at grace everyday but that's just me.

Slay

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Originally posted by SLAYER69
Bahhh!

This hits a little too close to home for me. I lost may father to cancer when I was 17 then my mom about 6 years ago to it and then my favorite brother inlaw 2 years ago.

From what I've experienced first hand about them was once they reached a certain point they accepted their fate and they were at peace with themselves and others. Nothing bothered them anymore. I wish I could be that serene and at grace everyday but that's just me.

Slay

[edit on 6-10-2009 by SLAYER69]

Back to the subject though.

If it's not to close.

What do you think they'd like to experience in their last days, and moments.

What would bring them the most joy, according to the OP guidelines, as it is.

Because in all honesty....

This, that I'm speaking of, ISN'T A LOST CAUSE.

He/She is still breathing, and speaking, and more importantly, is reaching out, acknowledging that they are truly afraid.

THERE IS NO COMFORT FOR THEM!!!!

I will stress that, as I have seen it first hand.

Said person is still alive, and reachable, and a fairly nice timing, disregarding the disease.

I want to be sure, that I can make life, the best possible one.

Then again, I must realize, how I can change my life, because my timeline says unknown, which can possibly mean tomorrow.

Extensions are plausible, tomorrow, isn't.

Just like to know, what would make those last few months, the greatest of all