reply to post by joechip
You don't much have a choice...
The child is either yours or it is not yours.
And you do have every right if you pay to be in the child's life if you request it.
But choice, it leaves you the instant the sperm enters her, it's not your choice, your never going to get the right to make a woman have an
Like I said up top the payment harshness is eugenics, they don't care about you, they don't want you to reproduce or even have sex if you wont pay
for the child.
I don't agree with it, I don't think it's right, women do use the system against you, I live with it right now.
It's unconstitutional, it's Slavery in the end forcing someone to work and pay...
But it's also a fight you can't win...
EXCEPT for ONE WAY
BE A DAD
The more time you spend, the more you pay at first at least and the cooler you are the more time you get with a child.
They also DEDUCT expenses for days the children are with you.
So what it really comes down to is: The better a Dad you are, the less you pay inevitably your going to pay nothing when you get half custody or next
You mention a guy doing time... for not paying.
I don't feel allot of sympathy... He has a Child he is far away, this is why he pays so much
The Law isn't the reason you can't get out of having a child you don't want, the woman you chose to sleep with is.
If more men at that point did the LAST thing those women actually want them to do, which is step up and act like fathers, this wouldn't be an
I'm not just gong off on how great being a Father actually is... it's also your prime line of defense. If a woman is going to decide to have a child
with you, and you didn't want to.... then make her DEAL with you being a Father, pursue it, demand your time, deduct that cash and let her not
This goes on, BECAUSE women get what they want and they want children and money... Demand to be a Dad and they get less of both and have to have you
around forever too, it's miserable for them and better for the kids to have 2 parents.
It's doing what's right, it's taking responsibility and it completely thwarts the type of women who do this for money and frankly they don't
deserve to be women if this is WHY they have children.
Your friend needs to... pick his but up, move a few miles away from mom and DEMAND to be a Father...
and if it's too late now then he messed up
Like I said... being a dad is great.
It's also the option that sets you free... a lifetime of running from what? what fear of being a Father is there? Why deny your children...
It's not a debate, we never have CHOICE it's not our body the choice ends the minute you pull out your tool
But you do have a choice to be a Father once it happens and if you are your not going to get eaten financially, not for long at least...
My ex knows every trick in the book and never thwarted me.
In time she wont get anything and she never got rid of me either...
You might not be able to fight the system the way you want, but you can still fight the system and win.