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Originally posted by mr-lizard
Maybe she just didn't wanna wear them? But maybe she feels sexy when she buys them, but lacks confidence maybe?
Maybe she felt threatened when you 'commanded' her? Or maybe she likes being dominated?
Maybe you should dress up for her?
Originally posted by asala
dont push her, by pushing her you are almost making it an issue and to be honest if its not something she likes to do then you need to drop it,
Stop making Sex the issue as you will only make her feel more uncomfortable,
Gently ask her what she does like and maybe you can both find another way to enjoy it,
I would if i where you go back to basics, Make her feel loved make her feel that you want her for who she is rather than what she wears,
then maybe everything else will come natural and she may just shock you one day wearing what she knows you will enjoy,
Give her time, give her love, and she will regain her confidence.
oh and p.s... Maybe we dont need to know about everything :wink: Video taping ect is something im sure needs to be between you both and not us.
[edit on 24-8-2009 by asala]
Originally posted by AccessDenied
COMMUNICATION before sex..is the best forplay.
Video taping ect is something im sure needs to be between you both and not us.
Originally posted by mr-lizard
You're a lucky guy then....
But don't push the girl that's for sure.
Sure i've had great sex with some of my ex lady friends, but my best memories come from the other stuff we did together - holidays, festivals, nice week ends away, going for a drive in the sun and chilling on beaches.
Don't make sex the priority, because if she's as nice as you make her out to be, then she's chosen you and you only.
All the other guys who don't know her, will want to know her.
Make sure it's YOU who knows her best- and i guarantee you'll be fine.
Have fun and stay cool.
Originally posted by riley
Simple answer.. some women dress for the occasion.
If you know you're going to get sex after taking her for a night out.. give her more insentive to wear the sexy stuff underneath. You say you have to ask her to wear this stuff for "date nights" where you know you'll be getting sex anyway and she gets annoyed? A night out isn't going the movies or dinner so where do you take her for date nights? Where do you take her to warrent wearing such finery?
If a beautiful woman has reason to wear a fancy evening dress she's going to make sure it's got the matching fancy under garments, stockings and heals to match. Personally I LOVE wearing corsets.. and they look great on me but so does the fancy dress that slips over the top that matches the fancy place I'm being taken to. The ritual of seduction should start a little earlier than last minute wardrobe requests.
I think suspecting her of sleeping around for owning this stuff is unfair. Maybe she just likes looking at them wishing she had reasons to wear them other than hubby's fetishes.
[edit on 25-8-2009 by riley]
Originally posted by whaaa
reply to post by Electro38
My twisted mind thinks that perhaps she may be pissed because just sexy stocking aren't enough. Next time suggest something a bit more daring.
Retraints, velvet cat o nine or kitchen spatula, food, mechanized marital aids...you get the idea.
Of course these items are to be used on you!!!
Originally posted by Electro38
I was also wondering, since I was never able to find the answer here, if ATS allows minors to access the site? Or must you be 18 and older? I always assumed you had to be 18 or older.
Please let me know. I don't want any kids reading anymore, or at least I'll tone things down.
I don't mind being candid with anonymous adults, it's actually very cathartic, a great release.