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When I was in my teens and trying to pick up the ladies... I noticed as much as I was good looking most girls were just wanted to be "friends". It pissed me off... so I did a bit of research and learned something I never tried before... Growing up my parents always told me "smile and be positive (doing that made me say "yes" a lot more)" well that works in an ideal world (where everyone is honest and real)... but we don't live in a ideal world. So I tried something new... I smiled inside, but on the outside I was neutral and learned to say "NO" a lot more. I noticed a HUGE shift in my personality, it had NOTHING to do with being negative by saying no (that's just some BS people shove down your throat when you're growing up, "social deviation"). It actually teaches you to build your personal boundaries. By saying "NO" to things you don't like you notify yourself/people around you on what you like and don't like. Over years of this now, my confidence and self boundary has increased dramatically. By saying "NO" without guilt, made me a stronger man within. I am becoming a whole as I discover my personal boundary, thanks to the magical word "NO". Keep speaking the truth within you and it shall set you free and change the world around you, into an honest and potentially ideal world. Thank you for reminding us all of this word..... NO