The_Seeker, maybe there's a little clause somewhere that allows them to withhold worker's comp. and other entitlements if they can claim your
husband 'refused medical assistance offered to him' ?
As for psychiatrists on the Oz govt. payroll -- be wary. First, is the guy your husband is seeing a qualified psychiatrist -- did he gain a medical
degree after which he gained a degree in psychiatry ? Or is he a TAFE certified 'mental health worker' or similar with little tack-ons from online
He 'forgot' giving your husband powerful drugs ? Hope you made a note of it, dated and detailed and hope you kept those bottles and whatever was in
Is your husband retired now, or on permanent sick-leave and if so, do you have to remain where you are ? Are you and he able to take an extended
break in a country town for example .. do some fishing, some bushwalking, just simple things ? Does your husband have an interest in crafts ..
woodworking, for example .. because according to informal reports, the comeraderie and absorption in the task can be very restorative. It will
provide him with new mates, a place to heal, lots of laughs and support.
Your husband's strong (and so are you): he's survived stuff, both mentally and physically, that would have destroyed others. So, he already has
what it takes to rebuild himself. He has it inside himself, independent of doctors and pills. He just needs the opportunity and time.
Frankly, I don't see the value in dragging up traumatic experiences. I know it fills up the hour from the mental-health professional's point of
view, but what does it do for the patient ? Our bodies and minds were equipped to deal with life's worst, long before psychiatry/psychology were
invented. If memories are supressed, then why meddle with the body's natural method of dealing with things ? What's the point of reliving them
--it doesn't make them go away. Childbirth can be traumatic sometimes .. do we get women to 'relive' the experience and then hand them pills to
'deal with' the additional trauma of reliving an event that's past and can't be changed ? No. We even tell women that bad though childbirth may
be .. they will 'forget it'. Doctors tell parents that their son will 'forget' the trauma of circumcision. Do psychiatrists instruct men to
'relive' their circumcision and then hand them pills to 'help them deal with it'? No again. It's there in their subconscious, where their minds
stored it in order they would move on.
If left to his own devices, your husband will learn to flip a switch, if it hasn't already been automatically flipped by his natural defences -- and
he'll consign traumatic events to the back room and move forward. Psychiatrists like digging .. then they check their watch and send the patient out
into the world with all those ugly memories forefront in their minds, their nerves jangling and shot. But not before they've dragged out their
prescription pads and fulfilled their obligations to the drug companies who send them on those freebie cruises and whose knicknacks adorn their desks.
They try to create a dependency within the patient, in order he'll keep on turning up on their couch and keep taking those profitable drugs.
One last thing .. has your husband explored 'Calanetics' ? You can buy the DVDs on ebay now, after years of not being able to get them here in
Australia. It's a strengthening method, comprised of small movements. The woman who 'invented' the method had been a dancer and was in very bad
shape physically. She formulated the exercises and basically rebuilt herself. They make you very strong and can be done by the elderly, etc. and
there are special ones that can be done by people with back and hip problems. You can buy the book quite cheaply in Oz on ebay if you'd prefer.
It's about 20 years old now, and has all the instructions and photos. One thing though, if you buy the DVD, ask them for the original version. Then
if your husband thinks the exercises are helping him, he might want to try some of the newer versions which seem to combine Pilates as well.
A change of pace and place .. country towns .. fishing .. walking .. driving around .. spending time together .. planning a new future --- that would
do him a world more good than dragging up the past to some crank behind a desk who'll send him away feeling like a wreck and with a bagload of drugs.
Your husband's done his bit. He's seen stuff that can't be changed, but he can turn the page or simply decide the rest of his life is a
completely fresh book. You and he can do it together, far better than anyone else can help him. Best wishes to you both