Those behind the course stress the scheme does not suggest teenagers experiment with oral sex. Instead they say A Pause promotes the message that other forms of physical intimacy are safer than full intercourse.
'It teaches people assertiveness skills and that they should be only as intimate as they feel comfortable with,' said Tripp.
From the second article:
Encouraging children to start talking about feelings and relationships developed emotional skills that helped them to avoid teenage pregnancy, sexually transmitted infection and drug taking, she said.
The advisory group will ask ministers to give statutory force to sex education guidelines prepared by Ofsted. They say pupils by the age of seven should be able to compare the external parts of the human body, share their feelings and use simple rules for resisting pressure from strangers.
By 11 they should be able to express opinions about relationships and bullying, recognise their changing emotions, discuss moral questions and know how to resist unwanted physical contact.
They should understand the physical changes that take place in puberty, the need for love in stable relationships and the safe routines needed to avoid the spread of viruses including HIV.
What I like about this, in seriousness, is the fact that both talk about abstenece, on some level. They were not saying just use oral sex as a barrier, but undersand that it is a boundary and that crossing it can be dangerous. This is good.
Now Oral sex: an underdetailed history of two of my male friends:
These two boy's first sexual experience was oral WITH each other when they were 15. One, being 19/20, has nearly got his 3rd major girlfriend pregnant (had slept with all 3), and the other is the same age and still a virgin, with a girl that he intends to marry, who wants to wait until marriage. The difference--the girls they chose. the first went after those who wanted to lose their virginity like nothing else, or wanted a mass production of children, while the second went after a girl with morals. (I happen to know the girls, and I'm being accurate.)
Me, I was sleeping with someone months before I did oral.
To each their own.
I think, though, that for this to work, it needs to be taught as layers of abstinence and that we can regress, as we need...
Now, abstinence doesn't particularly work as an educational field, either. I've had everything from threats, begging, education on abstaining, explanations on why men are evil, etc. It worked until I was 21--by my own choice. It now doesn't, for the same reason; I chose.
Honestly, I think it would be best to make kids understand that they DO HAVE A CHOICE TO MAKE.
(Come on, we don't guard our women and children like we used to--the biggest reason why they were celibate--they couldn't GET OUT to fornicate.)
