reply to post by Sonya610
I'm going to take your posts and try to answer them here all at once instead of foundering the thread in endless replies.
I doubt that. Many go to great lengths to hide it. If they thought it was “beautiful” why not get creative with it or practice
*Slaps my forehead*
Yes, SIIers go to great lengths to hide their scars.
Here’s a little star for you.
I didn’t say nor did I imply the SIIer was flashing around their scars like a new tat.
Tell me - what do you think when you see a scar on someone?
If you’re honest you’ll say, *Look, that’s a scar*.
Most SIIers I’ve interviewed don't see *Scars*.
The best way to put it is --- they see*MORE*.
As Zaphod58 said:
Now that I'M able to accept them, YES I find them beautiful. So does my significant other.
And that Zaphod is an incredible beautiful thing for both of you. I'm humbled and thank you for that input.
Sonya, as for your *get creative with it* comment, don't be flip, it doesn’t suit you.
SII behavior has nothing to do with scarification and to confuse either or is ignorance.
But ignorance can be cured.
And that leads into answering another question of yours.
At first you attack the OP for DARING to post anything on the topic, then you say discussing it can trigger relapse
The key word in your quote from above is *anything*.
I didn’t *attack* the OP for DARING to post ANYTHING.
I *attacked* the OP for posting pure TRASH - concerning a sensitive subject that should be handles with care, discretion and human kindness.
As for *triggering* It’s common practice for anyone who writes about SII behavior to post a *Trigger* Notice.
Someone who is a practicing SII is forewarned about the content and can choose to go ahead and read the content, or not.
Then you go on and on about it and make it sound like a perfectly harmless practice that perfectly sane people engage in and you even say it is
a lot less harmful than drinking or smoking. Sounds like a lot of contradictions there.
Nowhere in my post(s) did you find any of the above.
The contradictions started with you and the fact that you seem to be the only one who doesn’t understand what my points are about, what my words are
saying, and gosh-darn-it-all somehow from you they just come out all spinned.
If it's not so bad then what is the problem with discussing it? Its all good, so why freak out at the op? Silo's extreme and contradicting
views makes no sense to me.
There is no problem with discussing it as long as you use fact, and not fictitious fear mongering and supermarket rag magazine labels.
*Freak out* and *Attack*...
Hmm, I’m sorry you feel the need to label me with negativity.
I stand up for the issues I believe in and the people I love, and I love SIIers.
If you find my approach negative, I regret that.
It’s a sad thing when someone makes a stand and others can’t see it for what it is.
Might as well keep going now...
Okay so Silo attacks the Op, and then goes on to say later that cutting is not nearly so bad as smoking. The scars aren't a problem, fine. The
cutting rarely leads to death or serious injury, fine. The people engaging in it are not psychotic or dysfunctional, fine.
Don’t put words in my mouth.
I never said cutting was not nearly so bad as smoking.
I pointed out the truth, that, most people use some form of *stress relief* (smoking, food, liquored etc) and each of those relief methods do
SII behavior also does bodily harm - but - extremely rarely leads to long term health issues.
How you twisted all that into me thinking cutting is not nearly so bad as smoking I’ll never know, nor actually do I care.
I also never said SIIers were not dysfunctional!
Psychotic, you bet they’re not - dysfunctional - guess what, we all are.
Hypocrites that label SIIers *psychos* as they raise their whiskey glass and cigarette are just that - hypocrites. The only difference is an SIIers
*harm* you can see on the outside, if you ever see it at all.
SII is not *socially acceptable* behavior.
But scarification and tattooing is?
It’s hypocritical and each and every time I see that type of labeling and unfounded pathetic statements made by anyone I will *attack* (there’s
that word again) as you call it.
Why attack the OP?
Because the OP obviously knows next to NOTING about SII - as each and every SIIer here that’s posted has agreed.
Somehow, human beings can get into a mode where they wreak severe injury upon their body. They are punishing themselves, and some sort of
self-vengeance. One might almost think it was a type of demonic control, of sorts.
Oh give me a break - that kind of ignorance was nauseating to read the first time just as it is now!
I’m not going to go over it again.
If you can’t see my point - or if you're not willing to because this isn’t the first time you’ve had a run in with me here on ATS then I'm
sorry for you.
But I do see a need for stern words in the case of the OP and I wont just sit here and let something like that go without a rebuttal.
I might add - just in case you missed it.
I went to a good deal of time and effort to post my own personal notes and information from outside links.
I didn’t just *attack* the OP and run.
I DENIED IGNORANCE and came RIGHT BACK AT IT WITH TRUTH.
Thanks for your thought,