posted on Oct, 24 2008 @ 03:20 PM
Originally posted by asmeone2
Would you consider yourself to be fairly successful?....
I'm confused by what you're asking:
I mean, would you consider yourself fairly successful in life? Are you a good student? Are you a good artist? Good at your job? Anything like that.
What I am thinking is that a real compulsion (and I don't mean like eating too much, or making some risky decisions) is generally some survival
mechanism that is BROKEN. That is my hypothesis.
For example, if you have an eating compulsion, you are going to eat too much, beyond the point that makes any sense.
In the case of self-injury, I think it has to do with a more obscure survival mechanism, which is self-denial. You are denying your body. You have to
do that, or you would never get out of bed! Self denial to a moderate extent, is very good!
But if something breaks, and you start separating yourself from your body too much, you might get into a mode where you are purposely injuring
yourself. Athletes do this by over-exercising -- it can be a compulsion. This classic self-injury goes even further. Just like there is no reason to
continue eating, and you don't want to eat, you will continue. Just like drinking and smoking and doing drugs and washing your hands raw.
I've not yet accomplished anything in my life that we would consider substantial... but that's because I'm young.
Yeah. I realize my problem here. If you are one of those people who really are into self-denial and postponed gratification, it will be very hard to
admit you are successful, even if you actually are just that. You wouldn't permit yourself to admit that you are doing well.
It is a problem in testing my hypothesis.
I really appreciate your comments, Asmeon. I am still thinking about what you said.
[edit on 24-10-2008 by Buck Division]