posted on Apr, 18 2007 @ 05:42 PM
Yep, that's correct, I am coming out on ATS.
I am gay.
I told my parents, sisters, friends and only received positive responses so far. Coming out to my dad was hardest.
I was thinking about coming out the other day, and it seems to me that there is nothing like coming out. Nothing in life comes even close to the
phenomena of telling people close to you about a part of your most intimite desires, even though it is none of their business to begin with.
Many times I decided it wasnone of anyones business and noone would ever know. This decision led to a life of lying, deceit, and being
"undercover straight" for 22 years, after which I decided that I was not going to act for another 22.
Coming out happens more or less everywhere in the world, yet how people stand towards this event is completely different for different countries,
cultures, or even followers of certain religions.
Especially the moment just before deciding to come out, being torn apart by fears, doubt and the extreme desire to stop lieing to people I cared
about, was a sensation unlike anything I ever felt before.
After finding out about the "don't ask don't tell" policy regarding gay people in the American Army, I started wondering why a general attitude
regarding coming out in America differs so much from the attitude elsewhere. (europe, canada)
Where I live, coming out is a positive thing, yet it seems like in America it is something you don't do if you want to be accepted.
The knowledge itself regarding someones orientation doesn't change the orientation, so why do people in the US army make such a big deal about not
wanting to get information that will have no effect whatsoever on anything.
How reasonable is it to ask people in whatever context to hide the way in which they were born?