posted on Nov, 2 2003 @ 05:44 PM
Saucerat. your underlying issue isn't the girl.
Its your shyness...
If you work on that, then eventually you will get the girl as well.
You won't get one without overcomming the other.
Overcoming shyness is more solved by joining some club, or similar and just getting used to talking to people in a relaxed non stressful situation.
Making friends and having conversations with females without having to try and impress - just don't care- think of them as males in skirts. Try not
to notice that they are female.
The more you are not you, the more you will drive people away. Nothing is more painful to everyone than an adolescent trying to impress a girl. So
forget it, just be you and get used to talking to people in person.
How to talk to people?
Don't tell them about you, ask them about THEM.
Every person has a hot point, something they are itnerested in, a hobby, interest, etc, just find it ask them about it, see if you have it, and talk
to them about it.
Also most people LOVE to talk about themselves, especially when you get interested in their topic too. Then the hardest thing is making them shut
So when talking to others don't talk about you (that can be too painful) talk about THEM, thats not painful at all and people will love you for it. I
know it works I have used it to great success.
Its funny, they spend all the time talking about themeselves and come away thinking "what a great person that was".
And all you have done is listen... thats a rare person who does that...
Its works, try it....
[Edited on 2-11-2003 by Netchicken]