posted on Jul, 13 2006 @ 12:01 PM
I agree with many of the responses already given as to why there are so many single mothers.
Fact is that unless the woman was raped, it is the responsibility of both the man and woman to take measures against getting pregnant, if pregnancy is
Some couples get caught up in the moment. Some women think getting pregnant is the only way to keep a certain man around. Some men don't like using
condoms. Some women find out their boyfriend is an irresponsible child who doesn't know how to handle the situation, and leaves. Some women don't
want the man around. Some women use the situation to hurt the man. Some men and women simply don't care for anything aside from that moment of
pleasure. Some men and women get too drunk/high to know what they're doing. Some relationships don't end up in marriage. Some marriages don't work
out for hundreds of reasons.
Today's world is more accepting of single mothers, and children without both parents. Yesterday's world looked down on them, and that is why the man
ended up marrying his pregnant girlfriend, or the woman had an abortion (forced by boyfriend, parents, or by choice), or the child was taken from her.
It was shamefull, it was nearly social suicide, and many times it was hidden from public view. That is one of the reasons why you see single mothers
on the rise today.
The other reason for single motherhood (in my opinion) is that women are more liberated these days. They are no longer shunned (at least in most
places around the U.S.) for going out to bars, clubs, dating frequently, etc. etc. Many single women lead a life that is in many ways similar to the
way men have been leading their lives. You take two people who enjoy having 'fun' without social reprocussions, and you've just doubled the chance
of single motherhood. Of course it is also my opinion that if men were able to give birth, there would be a lot of single fathers in the world as
Both men AND women have to hold responsibility for their own actions. In my opinion one isn't more 'responsible' than the other for bringing a life
into the world. If you're not ready for children, always use some form of protection, at least try to choose a mate carefully, or simply abstain from
sexual activity. If you want to lead your life recklessly,..... have a (financial) back-up plan and realize that bringing a child into the world is a
VERY real possibility.
Excuses like 'she/he seduced me', or 'she's a gold digger' aren't acceptable. If you're not absolutely positive that the other person is
responsible enough to handle such a situation, don't have sex with them! No one is holding a gun to your head,.. and if they are, well,.... make your
I think that as long as parents stress over and over again the importance of taking personal responsibility for each action, children will grow up to
become better, more responsible adults.