Originally posted by Dock6
In the case of single-motherhood, neither party was prepared to take responsibility for contraception. If either the male or female had used
contraception, there would have been no baby.
So what we're seeing is unwillingness on the part of both men and women, to take responsibility for their actions. And this is not new: it's been
going on for hundreds of thousands of years.
I can partially agree with you there. BUT, there are plenty of cases where the mother was on birth control, or the father used a condom but she still
got pregnant. Condoms break, and the pill doesn't always work. My own mother accidently got pregnant with my brother and sister while on the pill.
(It was with my dad, they were married at the time.) She took it every day like she was supposed to, but got pregnant anyway. So it's not necessarily
true that a woman can only get pregnant if neither she nor the man used contraceptives of some sort. Even I got pregnant while on the pill.
There are very few men who have not left at least one illegitimate child in their wake. Some make a habit of it. Some make a hobby of it.
Can't agree with you there. I don't know where you got your information from, but I know a lot of guys that either I or my husband are friends with
and the majority of them do not have illegitimate children. Actually, I can't think of one that does have an illegitimate child. You really
shouldn't make such grand generalizations...
The fate of illegitimate children has never been easy. Some, desperate for male attention and affection, fall victim to pedophiles. Others
are consigned to poverty, ill-treatment, lack food, clothing, education and spend their entire lives as the butt of other's cruelty and scorn.
Others end their own sad and lonely lives. Some gain a step-father who treats them as 'second class'. Many fail at school through no fault of
their own. Often, illegitimate children are hated and blamed by their mothers.
Where on earth are you getting your information from? Yes, it's true that some illegitimate children, fall victim to pedophiles. But, not all
children who end up molested, poor, or starving are illegitimate, some of those children are legitimate.
And I agree that parents need to talk with their children about all of the potential consequences of sex. The "talk" should include the potential of
pregnancy and all that it entails, not just the parts about STD's.
Ultimately, the blame for the un-wed mothers and fathers of today (and their unfortunate offspring) can be placed squarely upon the shoulders
of their own parents.
No, the blame for unwed mothers and fathers is squarely upon the shoulders of the unwed mothers and fathers. If you are old enough to be having sex
and getting pregnant or getting someone else pregnant, you are old enough to start taking responsibility for your actions. With the exception of rape
cases, no one is forcing these unwed parents to have children. If your not using birth control of some sort, and you get pregnant it's your own fault
not your parents. If you are using birth control, and still get pregnant then it's still partially your fault. If you aren't ready for a baby use
the pill. (Or the patch, or the shot, etc. etc.) And even then it's still possible, unlikely but still possible, to get pregnant.
But in no way does two people having sex and creating a baby have anything to do with their parents.
In response to the original post, having a child should be sacred but it's not always that way. Children aren't planned most of the time anymore.
Having a child together does not always mean the parents love each other and want to be together forever. It's normal in today's society to have
single parents. There's no conspiracy, or social breakdown.