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Originally posted by IAF101
I hope to have made some sense.
IAF
[edit on 29-1-2006 by IAF101]
Originally posted by NJE777
ah ha...well what about those men who earn 20 or 30K less a year than the women??? what then?
Originally posted by NJE777
What about the woman who is educated, has money, property and own tool kit and knows how to change a tyre? What then??
Originally posted by NJE777
How does the man feel then?
Originally posted by NJE777
I can sure as hell tell you that men don't like an independent successful woman!!!!!
They want someone to provide for and can't handle it if they are not needed!!
Originally posted by NJE777
I don't need some schmuck to come along and pay for a thing/fix/provide for me and I resent the stereotypical Man Club hype that suggest all women are weak and need a man.....for their money...
Originally posted by NJE777
that usually comes at a cost....
I can do all the self caring for me that I need!
Originally posted by NJE777
but for guys on the other thread to place all women in the same bag...needing men for their money ---> stuff that.
I would rather go without.
Originally posted by NJE777
as a woman I love chocolates/flowers...but a pet hate of mine is when mr potential asks me out to dinner and then asks me to decide upon the restaurant!!....
I dont see romance as a weak thing, it has its place...
Who says he has to be like that? Maybe he'd like a companion, someone to spend his time with, someone he can be affectionate with and maybe love?
Look at how some of the women's magazine talk about men, like they're clueless beings who need a makeover and an overhaul.
So you could be a spinster? Might you not want a guy who is affectionate, caring and genuinely want to be with you for you, without wanting to change any aspect of you?
Originally posted by Flyboy211
So you could be a spinster?
Or are you even into men?
Originally posted by NJE777
ah ha...well what about those men who earn 20 or 30K less a year than the women??? what then? What about the woman who is educated, has money, property and own tool kit and knows how to change a tyre? What then??
How does the man feel then?
Originally posted by riley
Originally posted by Flyboy211
So you could be a spinster?
Interesting choice of word. Spinster was a denogrative term applicable 150 years ago when fathers couldn't marry of a daughter off and when 60 year olds married 16 year old virgins with child bearing hips, good teeth and a dowry of barn animals. 'Bachelor' of course is not a denogrative term and is still seen as something admirable yet if a woman is single there must be something 'wrong' with her.
Or are you even into men?
="She must be a dyke."
="ug"
Blimey. It's kind of ironic that you were playing her point down yet validated it by using the old feminist/lesbian spin. Just because some women are self empowered and like their independence.. it does not mean they want to be men or desire women.
NJE777.. I am certain there is a man out there who is perfect for you and will not feel masculinely [yeah i know that isn't a word] compromised by how much you earn, your independence, talent or intelligence. When you find him.. ask if he has a brother.
For those who don't know, australian culture is big on being mucho. The contrast between male and female was and is still [to an extent] what defines manhood yet now men are limited in ways to expressing it because their female counterparts have also developed [traditional] 'masculine' traits. "Oh I twisted my ankle'.. and the guy carries her off into the sunset. Actually.. the aussie male might just dump her in a cab and get back to drinking with the boys.
[edit on 29-1-2006 by riley]
Originally posted by riley
Interesting choice of word. Spinster was a denogrative term applicable 150 years ago when fathers couldn't marry a daughter off and when 60 year olds married 16 year old virgins with child bearing hips, good teeth and a dowry of barn animals. 'Bachelor' of course is not a denogrative term and is still seen as something admirable yet if a woman is single there must be something 'wrong' with her.
Originally posted by orangetom1999
Socially it is acceptable for women to do this ..men should be more expendable or disposable and should not have access to this type of "option"????
Originally posted by riley
="She must be a dyke."
="ug"
Originally posted by Flyboy211
Or are you even into men?
Originally posted by riley
Blimey. It's kind of ironic that you were playing her point down yet validated it by using the old feminist/lesbian spin. Just because some women are self empowered and like their independence.. it does not mean they want to be men or desire women.
Originally posted by riley
NJE777.. I am certain there is a man out there who is perfect for you and will not feel masculinely [yeah i know that isn't a word] compromised by how much you earn, your independence, talent or intelligence. When you find him.. ask if he has a brother.
Originally posted by riley
For those who don't know, australian culture is big on being mucho. The contrast between male and female was and is still [to an extent] what defines manhood yet now men are limited in ways to expressing it because their female counterparts have also developed [traditional] 'masculine' traits. "Oh I twisted my ankle'.. and the guy carries her off into the sunset. Actually.. the aussie male might just dump her in a cab and get back to drinking with the boys.
Originally posted by Flyboy211
To an extent it is true, for instance a woman physically beating a man might be more tolerated than the other way around. That if a woman strikes a man, he's just meant to stand there and take it. Although the other way around the police are called and the man gets locked up in jail.
Yet i could find a polar example, where if a man sleeps around, he's praised for it. If a woman does it, she can get labelled as a 'whore'.
It's not fair but these unbalances on both genders are found throughout societies. Why? Who knows..maybe on the latter example, men feel threatened and a touch (if not a lot more) of sexual jealousy, baser instincts.
You said it not me . I don't appreciate people putting words into my mouth.
The fact that i don't know her, and that she seemed fairly hostile against men led me to question. I didn't say "you must not be into men". Instead i asked..
Where did i state that she wanted to be a man? I only asked if she was even into men, since i don't know her and couldn't work out if she was some stereotypical feminist lesbian ranting on men, or just a little disillusioned.
As i believe, the person should like you for being yourself, and not want to change you. I would never wish that on anyone, nor do i expect it on me. If they don't like your success, status, intelligence, talent etc then they only feel threatened. Because they want to be able to provide for you. Yet some don't realise that just being them is enough.
Let's hope it doesn't happen in the outback
Originally posted by NJE777
How does the man feel then?
I can sure as hell tell you that men don't like an independent successful woman!!!!!
They want someone to provide for and can't handle it if they are not needed!!
Originally posted by Ocelot
I was that "typical male" you describe. I wanted to pay for everything, take care of her etc etc...
But in the end I realized that the problem wasnt with her but with me. At the time I didn't know why I couldn't handle it, then it I realized that by wanting to do everything... I was in a way trying to control her in a way. Which was the dumbest thing in the history of man.
Originally posted by NJE777
I can sure as hell tell you that men don't like an independent successful woman!!!!!
They want someone to provide for and can't handle it if they are not needed!!
LostSailor
Originally posted by NJE777
I can sure as hell tell you that men don't like an independent successful woman!!!!!
They want someone to provide for and can't handle it if they are not needed!!
I'm always lookin' for a sugar momma!!! Still haven't found one yet though..........