Originally posted by Zaphod58
This isn't really a rant, it's more of a "I'm so tired, when will all this crap end" post.
So far this year, I have gotten divorced, started a new relationship that is heading towards marriage, come as close as you possibly can to losing
THAT relationship and not lose it, had my mother spend three weeks in the ICU with a less than 10% chance of surviving (she did luckily), and today
was given the option of either resigning and saving my resume, or being fired. So I am currently jobless, trying to support my fiancee, build us a
room for her to stay in while she's in the Philippines until she can come here, and pay my bills that I'm way behind on.
[edit on 9/20/2005 by Zaphod58]
Taking a page from Duzey's book, I decided to hunt you out.
Seriously though, sometimes it helps when you invert things, turn them the other way around. And make lists. Things that are in your control, things
For example, your mom was very lucky to survive and you haven't lost your relationship with your fiance. So in a way you *are* lucky. Think about the
people running around with lots of money and great jobs but no love or family. Although these scary things happened/are happening to you; you and your
loved ones survived. You still have your fiancee and your parents.
The rest of the world - while conspiring to make you unhappy in the form of bills and the soon to materialize new job - is a different matter. But
these are things you can fix, work on and aspire to. These are the items to tackle on your list. The other group - the love of your family, friends,
significant other, are the things to relish and think about while you are struggling.
As far as being tired, I can see why you are. When you surviive obstacles, the onslaught of relief, fear, gladness and adrenaline, all come rushing in
at the same time, leaving you exhausted. That and the daily struggle to remain strong must be taking its toll.
Practical advice - eat well, sleep well. Sounds easy but a lot of people have a hard time sleeping when faced with so many problems. Staying up at
night worrying about them will only weaken your constitution.
Try to do something pleasant once a day that doesn't drain your energy. Think positive thoughts. I know this sounds wishy-washy and a little new agey
- but physically, being positive has an effect on you that can't be overlooked. It might also help when things look a little hopeless.
I think there is something to that whole bad energy, bad things happening all at once thing. You ever hear of a bad luck magnet? Best thing to do is
fight against it, try to be happy.
I hope this helps in some small way. Talking to people can often be just what you need. It can give you perspective and at the very least make you
feel like your are not alone.
Anyway - I'm off to find Tinkle's thread.