What would cause you to marry more?

This has nothing to do with civil unrest but I deem it as a
definite social issue. So this is my pick for posting. There will
be no links no way to prove or research the claims I put forward
here.

I start with a simple question based on your own life long experience
that is the heading. It is not a judgement of your character. So I beg
of you be honest and tell the world or at least ATS.

What would cause you to Marry more? Good looks or an extremely
wonderful personality. I make but one confession that may cause
you the reader to think as deeply as I would like before you answer.

The best sex I ever had was with the person I will never stop loving.
And she was the most gorgeous person I ever met. I will not be
responding to a single post. I think maybe I should disclose that I
am heterosexual I'm a womanizer only because I absolutely adore
woman. And have been with the likes of playboy material all thru
my life. But I want only to read your thoughts on this subject. And
your answers to this one question.

Do you think my true love was gorgeous on only on the inside, only
on the outside or both? I look forward to everything my fellow
members bring to this table. So as my sisters drill team used to say.
Ready? Begin!

So what would cause you to marry and the fact that I'm wondering
considered.

What do you think my wife was like based on all that I have mentioned?

Should be fun I hope.

When I was younger I was more shallow and that mindset came back to haunt me....

These days personality outweighs good looks by far....

More specifically, loyalty and how our vibes sync up....

Fortunately for me.....I'm the equivalent of a hot chick as a dude and have always attracted good looking women....😏

What a weird and narcissistic post.

Have a long and happy life.

a reply to: carsforkids

To elaborate more......I've met some super super fine girls who's negative personality completely ruined the power of their good looks.....

And it definitely works the other way around....

Right now I with a 47 year old native woman who this entire town drools over...

She's an ex boxer with titles to show for it, and she danced for the Alaska bush company....

She is my sugar momma/best friend/just friend...... however, I have seen the top of the mountain a few times....if ya know what I mean.....

And I would gladly marry her and be a father figure for her son and daughter because I have been through marriage, divorce, and have kids with two different women....

Im tired and done wasting time so I truly cherish real love and genuine people and interactions and really don't get hung up on any of the shallow stuff....

a reply to: selfharmonise

Right?
I got married because I found an individual that I loved and could work with me in raising kids.
I'm not sure of the OP's point?

a reply to: GoShredAK

Not sure if you are the OP or not.
But I do not think you are looking at long term relationships in a healthy way.

To answer your question....

The wife was smoking ass hot....

She had a great personality, so it seemed at first, but over time that deteriorated, and you were left with only the looks.....which was hard to break away from , but you got there eventually and are now wiser from the experience. Which is why you now understand personality is where it's at, however this is not so black and White....

How close am I?

You should respond even tho you said you won't cause I'm just about certain I nailed it....

originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
a reply to: GoShredAK

Not sure if you are the OP or not.
But I do not think you are looking at long term relationships in a healthy way.

How so?

I'm actually on another level with women and have learned how to not operate with the standard insecurities, jealousy, over bearing attitude, how to listen rather than interject my opinion trying to fix things.....I know much of what we do that actually pushes women away...........I'm prepared to be 100% loyal because I've seen the cheating game and how that goes and how it's never worth it.....

What part has you thinking I'm looking at it wrong?

Are you a woman or man ?

I think I'm quite the catch and my life experience has me in a bracket above the average dude...

originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
a reply to: selfharmonise

Right?
I got married because I found an individual that I loved and could work with me in raising kids.
I'm not sure of the OP's point?

I'm not the OP

Also going back and reading your comment, no offense but it seems to be you who has a bit to learn...

originally posted by: selfharmonise
What a weird and narcissistic post.

Have a long and happy life.

a reply to: carsforkids

Do you have any input? Or just here to diss in a weak self righteous way.....

Op is being honest.....

I forget how people try and present themselves as so perfect.....

Remove the plank in your eye before you worry about the speck in your brothers eye....

Neither good looks nor a great personality would be enough for me to marry them. Why would I want to join someone to my hip? If they could hang with me for a few years and we found that we were compatible maybe I would reconsider.

I've found out that even If they are ugly on the outside..... They have just as much of a chance of being ugly on the inside also. So you might as well go with the good looking one to at least get the outer shallow beauty.

What would cause you to marry more?

Cases of tequila and a momentary lapse of reason. 🤒

a reply to: selfharmonise

Really you you think it's like that?

a reply to: GoShredAK

Fortunately for me.....I'm the equivalent of a hot chick as a dude and have always attracted good looking women....😏

This is so cool because now I can ask you. What makes you think that is fortunate?

originally posted by: Doctor Smith
Neither good looks nor a great personality would be enough for me to marry them. Why would I want to join someone to my hip? If they could hang with me for a few years and we found that we were compatible maybe I would reconsider.

I've found out that even If they are ugly on the outside..... They have just as much of a chance of being ugly on the inside also. So you might as well go with the good looking one to at least get the outer shallow beauty.

Which is basically what we all do anyway....

It results in domestic issues, broken families and broken hearts.....

Sad state of affairs if you ask me.

originally posted by: carsforkids
This has nothing to do with civil unrest but I deem it as a
definite social issue. So this is my pick for posting. There will
be no links no way to prove or research the claims I put forward
here.

I start with a simple question based on your own life long experience
that is the heading. It is not a judgement of your character. So I beg
of you be honest and tell the world or at least ATS.

What would cause you to Marry more? Good looks or an extremely
wonderful personality. I make but one confession that may cause
you the reader to think as deeply as I would like before you answer.

The best sex I ever had was with the person I will never stop loving.
And she was the most gorgeous person I ever met. I will not be
responding to a single post. I think maybe I should disclose that I
am heterosexual I'm a womanizer only because I absolutely adore
woman. And have been with the likes of playboy material all thru
my life. But I want only to read your thoughts on this subject. And
your answers to this one question.

Do you think my true love was gorgeous on only on the inside, only
on the outside or both? I look forward to everything my fellow
members bring to this table. So as my sisters drill team used to say.
Ready? Begin!

So what would cause you to marry and the fact that I'm wondering
considered.

What do you think my wife was like based on all that I have mentioned?

Should be fun I hope.

Well first of all you sound like a very confident person and I'm sure your wife I'm not too sure if she's alive or whatever but you sound like a very confident person.
But your thread your question comes along as if it's like a quiz to quizzes so I don't think there's going to be any real real real answer or thoughts toward your thread at all.

originally posted by: carsforkids
a reply to: GoShredAK

Fortunately for me.....I'm the equivalent of a hot chick as a dude and have always attracted good looking women....😏

This is so cool because now I can ask you. What makes you think that is fortunate?

Wow!

Impressive

I just didn't feel I should elaborate more on that point....

In many ways it is not fortunate....it's a curse and generally leads to shallow, codependent, toxic relationships.....

However it's possible to turn bad experiences into strength and wisdom after going through it....

Actually, now that I think of it, I still feel fortunate......it feels nice to look good and be talented, especially now that I'm learning to use it 😁

a reply to: GoShredAK

Im tired and done wasting time so I truly cherish real love and genuine people and interactions and really don't get hung up on any of the shallow stuff....

Sure seems as tho we've learned the same lesson.

a reply to: musicismagic

Damn. You are probably so right my brother. I have a lot of trouble
with text communicating what I have in my head. Why is that?

In my 34 years of life experience, and as one who struggles with codependency.....I have found we are a rarity...