a reply to: redmage
Lying in public about an intensely personal issue is not something I have any issues with. I know few people who would willingly divulge personal
improprieties in public.
This only issue I have with her behavior is the inappropriate relationship with a member of her staff. It's one thing to have a relationship with a
co-worker if you are in different departments and not in each other's "chain of command", but if that person works for you, either directly or
indirectly, that is a huge issue.
My wife and I worked for the same company, in the same building. The difference is, she worked in a completely separate department that had no direct
contact with my department. I was in management, but she was not. Several times she had problems with her co-workers and sought my assistance. I had
to tell her that she needed to work it out with her supervisor and/or human resources. I could not get involved.
She eventually transferred to another department at another office in a neighboring town. When she ran into issues again, I had to give her the same
advice. My attitude is similar to what was expressed in the Godfather. When I have my "work hat" on, "it's nothing personal, it's strictly business."
No matter how much I would like to intervene on behalf of my wife, I am bound by my code of ethics not to. I had to "recuse" myself from the situation
because my personal interests could be seen to have conflicted with my professional interests. She needed to seek recourse in the avenues that were
available to her without my intervention.
Eventually, when numerous departments were consolidated into a single department, many of our employees were considered redundant and were "laid off".
My wife was included. I was not. I am still working for this company today. My wife has found employment elsewhere. Many of my co-workers were
surprised to not only learn that she was my wife (I have no idea how they didn't know that, it wasn't a secret) and that I wasn't bitter about her
getting laid off.
The reason I wasn't bitter about it (though we weren't happy about losing her income in our family budget), was that I knew the layoffs were done in a
fair manner and that she was far from being alone in being let go from her position. I also knew we let go FAR too many people, she was even asked to
return a few months later (she said, "No way in hell" to put it mildly), but that's another story.
The point I am trying to make (poorly) is that there can be no appearance of impropriety between a supervisor and their subordinate. Any impropriety,
whether real or imagined, can open up the company (employer) to all sorts of liability issues. Want to have a relationship with a subordinate? Fine,
but one of you needs to leave your professional position if that is something you want to pursue. The consequences otherwise can be far reaching
beyond just your personal relationship. For better or worse, this is a lesson Katie Hill has learned (I hope).
edit on 28-10-2019 by BomSquad
because: had to doublespace my paragraphs for formatting. too hard to read otherwise.