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originally posted by: PsychicCroMag
a reply to: XXXN3O- Natures way of terminating a fetus which was not growing correctly and possibly protecting your fiancee's life.Most miscarriages occur in the first trimester (12wks) and 10-15% of pregnancies end before full term. There is nothing to be ashamed of or feel guilty about. Some day you will have a family and this event will fade into the past. This is an opportunity to strengthen your bond with your fiancee and to show how much you care for her.
originally posted by: Plotus
Sounds like your way past the marriage part and right into the bliss part. Might be moral issues to resolve, maybe not, but she will be going through hormonal issues that might be difficult for a period of time until she is back at normalcy. Likely be needy. Can you support her emotionally, it might be a task short term.
originally posted by: pheonix358
Cuddles. Lots of cuddles.
You can give a cuddle and get a cuddle in return without meaning to.
Cuddles heal the soul and that is why they are so important.
Cuddles and kisses are designed by mummy nature to take over when words become superfluous.
Cuddles! Cuddles! Cuddles!
More please! Cuddles!
We have known each other since we were 5 (now in 30's). I know we will be alright long term.
originally posted by: XXXN3O
From my point of view, I might be feeling a bit guilty too, for not feeling so messed up.
I subscribe to the natures point of view at this stage (I never knew I did until now) and nothing could be done no matter what at an early stage, especially as it was not known.
Saying that to your partner, that is feeling like it is their fault, might hurt them even when they claim it is ok.
As a man, I am quite confused just now. I am unsure as to whether I should be grieving or just playing this off as the brutal reality of nature for what better words to find.