a reply to: peppycat
insults hereon seem to be [like so much of the net]
It has actually gotten more civil in recent years, thankfully. The mods have a challenging task.
Not sure about your lack of food situation. That concerns me greatly. There should be churches and food banks in your area that would be of help. And
you should be able to get food stamps.
I appreciate your compassion and empathy. Those are in short supply in our world. CONGRATS.
In terms of my personal reply to the OP insult question . . .
I prefer to be civil, even gracious and loving. That's my PREFERENCE.
And, typically, when folks relate to me in a civil way, that's about all they get in response.
WHEN fiercely contrarian, compulsive-prickly-slashing-arrogant-ognorant-haughty . . . chronically angry . . . etc. jerks insult and particularly
attack my person-hood in very harsh ways--
THEN I can respond with "their language" and some level of an attempt at a Reader's Digest "Perfect Squelch" sort of reply to let them know that their
poo is noticed and that I am not likely to merely roll over and play dead about it.
I have mixed feelings about that. I'm endeavoring more and more to just consider the source and their SERIOUS RAD (Attachment Disordered) background,
deficits and walk on by without responding at all.
Sadly, for certain personalities and values, I have--LIFELONG--seemed to be a LIGHTENING-ROD for fierce attack--sometimes just for walking in the room
and being nothing but pleasant and caring. It has been mystifying at times.
Hereon, folks see my Christianity in my avatar column and tend to erupt with seething hostility 'merely' at that.
And, I usually serve notice in many OP's about my stance toward such folks. That's deliberate for a list of reasons I won't note publicly. But it does
tend to also trigger some of their fierce assaultiveness.
I think that they would be that way even without my noting my stance toward such an attitude in my OP. Having experimented, I'm certain of it. Giving
that notice at least lets them know I'm not likely to be a passive wimp about their assaultive viciousness.
To me, satirical insults can be more than greatly begged for by their initial insulting statements. I try and turn the volume down compared to their
poor statements but still let them know that their cr*p stinks. I do NOT have any fantasies about moderating their harshness much at all. I do hope my
assertiveness avoids their having the delusion that they can "get away with murder" in such regards, however.
Sometimes the petty childish rants and fiercely assaultive person-hood attacks are so far over the line, I feel compelled to alert on a post.
I'm learning that unless I've been super squeaky clean and not giving the slightest negative retort, alerts may not trigger any response from the
OF COURSE, the insults etc. arise out of past hurts, insecurities, etc. that are all CERTAINLY a result of RAD. That's pretty painfully transparent.
And RAD is rampant in our culture. Almost all of us have some degree of it with various levels of success at overcoming those dynamics.
Anyway--that's a brief commentary answering your OP.
Prayers for your food and health needs and about the time card problem.
I'm not that troubled about your language. I make as good a sense as I can of your posts and respond accordingly.